Crude Overview:
Jesus continues to heal and teach. He calls Matthew and shows the Pharisees that He has come for the sinners and not the already "righteous". He teaches that His disciples do not fast because He is there. How can one mourn while the bridegroom is with them? Once He is gone they will fast. Jesus has compassion on the crowds because they are harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.
What does this teach me about the LORD?
Jesus' compassion is like no one else's. He sees to the root of every problem; our sin. He feels compassion for us in this state and invites us to be healed, to be forgiven, to go and sin no more. He has judgement for those who refuse to see their sin or who glory in their sin. His compassion knows no bounds for the broken and those who know their helplessness all to well.
Book Notes:
"Pharisees would have regarded as sinners anyone who failed to keep God's law as they understood it, and the term here seems to reflect a commonly understood meaning by which it included both people guilty of publicly known sin and others who did not keep the strict purity requirements of the Pharisees."
"'I desire mercy and not sacrifice,' is a quotation from Hosea 6:6...More important to God was 'mercy' (the Septuagint rendering of Hb. hesed, meaning 'steadfast love'), which would have led the Pharisees to care for the sinners as Jesus did.
Personal Observations:
There is so much here that any group of believers could latch onto and talk about for hours. One could find at least six sermons here, if not more
The one thing my soul has lept at is the note on the word "mercy" which is the Hebrew word that the Greek substitutes. Hesed; steadfast love.
If we go back to the Greek and say, "I desire mercy and not sacrifice," we understand this. God sits as judge, looks at our case and we know we are screwed. We deserve the death penalty..and then He dismisses our case.
"I desire steadfast love and not sacrifice." This feels very different. This is compassion of a much deeper level. IN this scenario the judge is overcome with compassion for the defendant whom He has loved since he was a child. He has watched him make bad decision after bad decision. The judge loves him so much that He takes off the black robe, sets down his gavel, and takes the place of the defendant and tells the bailiff to take Him to take Him to death row instead.
The frightening thing is that Hosea 6:6 is a call for God's people to have this kind of love.
What does that look like? I'm scared to find out, honestly.
P
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Wednesday, August 30, 2017
Limping Between Two Options
I have completed my journey through 1st Kings as of last night, and it has been quite an enlightening one. One (such as I) might think that there was little to be gleaned from the stories of selfish and evil idolatrous kings constantly failing to abide by the dictates of the LORD but for a few brief shining moments. And you'd be (and I was) wrong. I went into my study begrudgingly and I came out of it...I don't want to say I was "rejoicing" but I certainly had a clearer understanding of the LORD, which is always good. But it's a cringing sort of joy because it also says a lot about us as His people and what our problem is.
Preacher, author, significant Calvinist John MacArthur's podcast recently had a series on sin where he talked about modern Humanism. Modern humanism believes in the perfectibility of man, that every age of man is a step up, a continual evolution of we humans. Every age, they say, we leave behind more of our base instincts and become ever more enlightened. It's a very likeable and compelling belief...as long as you know absolutely nothing about history. All recorded history, when you get down to it, flies in the face of humanistic ideals. For a time we act enlightened but all it takes is one generation to turn us from those ideals and march us back into the paths of darkness. 1 Kings is a book that shows us we are still those same people from 4000 years ago and we still wrestle with the same problems.
1 Kings spans the centuries between the death of King David to the death of King Ahab. During this time Israel is split into Israel and Judah in a civil war. Jeroboam was made King of the 10 other tribes (Judah consuming the tribe of Benjamin without so much as a by your leave). Jeroboam rose to kingship and got the majority portion of the once whole country, but there was a threat to his power. He was convinced that if people traveled to Jerusalem to worship the LORD in the temple in Judah that Solomon had built they would remember the golden years of the Davidic reign and want to be part of that again. He was afraid that bit by bit his kingdom would secede because the temple is so pretty. So, what does he do? He builds two golden calves, one in the north and one in the south, and says "Here, oh Israel, are the gods who brought you out of Egypt." Total post-Exodus Aaron jerk move.
This softens the people up to the worship of other gods right alongside the One True God. Solomon had already "broken the seal", so to speak, on this by giving in to his foreign wives and going so far as to worship Molech and Asherah alongside the LORD though not in His temple. Jeroboam, however, connected the two worships at the same exact location. Ahab comes along with his foreign wife and he openly worships the Baals and the LORD in the same place even going so far as to apparently worship the Baals more than the LORD.
Along comes Elijah.
During the Mount Carmel confrontation Elijah addresses the assembled masses of Israel and shouts, "How long will you go limping between two options!" Either Baal is god or the LORD is God. Stop worshiping them both. Those words almost glowed on the page. They stuck out in a way that I know to be the Holy Spirit convicting me of something.
There are a lot of people who think that America is the "new Israel" and that we are full up on God's blessings and promises. Now, I don't think that is correct, but I think it's interesting that we as a people are committing many of the same sins. We'd like to believe that we aren't worshiping other gods but let me ask you this: What thing(s) in your life are keeping you from what Jesus acknowledged as the greatest commandment, "You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your might,"? As harsh at its sounds, whatever it is that holds you back from that is your god. You see, we are committing the exact same sin as Israel. We want to worship other gods beside him.
I mean if we give Him slightly more time, if we give Him slightly more consideration then it's OK to worship the same gods that the rest of the world does, right? Because, it's not like we are worshiping them more so it's not the same has having other gods before Him...right?
Unfortunately that gets a resounding, "No". All your heart. Whew...forget the soul and strength, let's sit back and appreciate that. There is no room for division. There is no room for sectioning off and this is for God, this is for me, and this is for this other god I don't want to admit controls my desires. All seems to mean all. And that's where I'll stop because I'm feeling a kindling; like it goes deeper and if I look I'll derail this whole blog post. So I'll stick that in the Blog Idea file and leave it there today.
Our problem is the same as Israel's that began before the crowning of King Saul and has only gotten worse over time. We proudly declare, "We are blessed of God! We are a different and unique people set apart! So, uh, but we want to be just like everyone else...k?" Is it any wonder? We regularly buck against 1 John 2:15 "Do not love this world nor the things it offers you.." We all agree that we are to be "in the world but not of the world," but that rattles off our tongue without us really considering its meaning or its cost. How do I know? Because when I rattle it off I don't stop and say, "Oh crap...Woe is me."
We cannot be a unique (holy) people, set apart, and while at the same time trying to be like the rest of the world. We want it to be OK to do this or that activity, accept this or that sin, alter this or that doctrine to serve our need/want, accept or reject this or that scripture to make Jesus more palatable so our church will be liked more. And, as always, I'm bringing this up because I still haven't wrapped my mind around it. I'm struggling on a fundamental level with my own inner Israelite. I want to be special to God, but just like everyone else around me...or at least as much as my seared conscience will allow.
Here's what I do know: The more we submit to Jesus, the more we do what we know is right via His scriptures, the more we let go of those things that so easily entangle our hearts (not to mention our soul and might), the more we focus on seeking Him, His Kingdom, and His righteousness...the more everything else on earth will matter less and less. It hurts. It's painful to our Flesh. Our knees and necks are so stiff that we struggle to bow, struggle to bend the knee, struggle to do more than lip service.
We haven't changed.
Woe is me.
But...He wants to be known. That's the joy here. He's right there. He is exactly the Papa He says He is; waiting for His prodigal children to even just turn around...and He's running to meet us.
Pax,
W
P.S. For the curious souls who scrolled down this far...Amos is next.
P.P.S. Throughout this blog entry I keep hearing the words of the Law Giver from "The Island of Dr. Moreaux, "If there is no pain...does that mean then that there is no Law?". How seared are our consciences?
Preacher, author, significant Calvinist John MacArthur's podcast recently had a series on sin where he talked about modern Humanism. Modern humanism believes in the perfectibility of man, that every age of man is a step up, a continual evolution of we humans. Every age, they say, we leave behind more of our base instincts and become ever more enlightened. It's a very likeable and compelling belief...as long as you know absolutely nothing about history. All recorded history, when you get down to it, flies in the face of humanistic ideals. For a time we act enlightened but all it takes is one generation to turn us from those ideals and march us back into the paths of darkness. 1 Kings is a book that shows us we are still those same people from 4000 years ago and we still wrestle with the same problems.
1 Kings spans the centuries between the death of King David to the death of King Ahab. During this time Israel is split into Israel and Judah in a civil war. Jeroboam was made King of the 10 other tribes (Judah consuming the tribe of Benjamin without so much as a by your leave). Jeroboam rose to kingship and got the majority portion of the once whole country, but there was a threat to his power. He was convinced that if people traveled to Jerusalem to worship the LORD in the temple in Judah that Solomon had built they would remember the golden years of the Davidic reign and want to be part of that again. He was afraid that bit by bit his kingdom would secede because the temple is so pretty. So, what does he do? He builds two golden calves, one in the north and one in the south, and says "Here, oh Israel, are the gods who brought you out of Egypt." Total post-Exodus Aaron jerk move.
This softens the people up to the worship of other gods right alongside the One True God. Solomon had already "broken the seal", so to speak, on this by giving in to his foreign wives and going so far as to worship Molech and Asherah alongside the LORD though not in His temple. Jeroboam, however, connected the two worships at the same exact location. Ahab comes along with his foreign wife and he openly worships the Baals and the LORD in the same place even going so far as to apparently worship the Baals more than the LORD.
Along comes Elijah.
During the Mount Carmel confrontation Elijah addresses the assembled masses of Israel and shouts, "How long will you go limping between two options!" Either Baal is god or the LORD is God. Stop worshiping them both. Those words almost glowed on the page. They stuck out in a way that I know to be the Holy Spirit convicting me of something.
There are a lot of people who think that America is the "new Israel" and that we are full up on God's blessings and promises. Now, I don't think that is correct, but I think it's interesting that we as a people are committing many of the same sins. We'd like to believe that we aren't worshiping other gods but let me ask you this: What thing(s) in your life are keeping you from what Jesus acknowledged as the greatest commandment, "You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your might,"? As harsh at its sounds, whatever it is that holds you back from that is your god. You see, we are committing the exact same sin as Israel. We want to worship other gods beside him.
I mean if we give Him slightly more time, if we give Him slightly more consideration then it's OK to worship the same gods that the rest of the world does, right? Because, it's not like we are worshiping them more so it's not the same has having other gods before Him...right?
Unfortunately that gets a resounding, "No". All your heart. Whew...forget the soul and strength, let's sit back and appreciate that. There is no room for division. There is no room for sectioning off and this is for God, this is for me, and this is for this other god I don't want to admit controls my desires. All seems to mean all. And that's where I'll stop because I'm feeling a kindling; like it goes deeper and if I look I'll derail this whole blog post. So I'll stick that in the Blog Idea file and leave it there today.
Our problem is the same as Israel's that began before the crowning of King Saul and has only gotten worse over time. We proudly declare, "We are blessed of God! We are a different and unique people set apart! So, uh, but we want to be just like everyone else...k?" Is it any wonder? We regularly buck against 1 John 2:15 "Do not love this world nor the things it offers you.." We all agree that we are to be "in the world but not of the world," but that rattles off our tongue without us really considering its meaning or its cost. How do I know? Because when I rattle it off I don't stop and say, "Oh crap...Woe is me."
We cannot be a unique (holy) people, set apart, and while at the same time trying to be like the rest of the world. We want it to be OK to do this or that activity, accept this or that sin, alter this or that doctrine to serve our need/want, accept or reject this or that scripture to make Jesus more palatable so our church will be liked more. And, as always, I'm bringing this up because I still haven't wrapped my mind around it. I'm struggling on a fundamental level with my own inner Israelite. I want to be special to God, but just like everyone else around me...or at least as much as my seared conscience will allow.
Here's what I do know: The more we submit to Jesus, the more we do what we know is right via His scriptures, the more we let go of those things that so easily entangle our hearts (not to mention our soul and might), the more we focus on seeking Him, His Kingdom, and His righteousness...the more everything else on earth will matter less and less. It hurts. It's painful to our Flesh. Our knees and necks are so stiff that we struggle to bow, struggle to bend the knee, struggle to do more than lip service.
We haven't changed.
Woe is me.
But...He wants to be known. That's the joy here. He's right there. He is exactly the Papa He says He is; waiting for His prodigal children to even just turn around...and He's running to meet us.
Pax,
W
P.S. For the curious souls who scrolled down this far...Amos is next.
P.P.S. Throughout this blog entry I keep hearing the words of the Law Giver from "The Island of Dr. Moreaux, "If there is no pain...does that mean then that there is no Law?". How seared are our consciences?
Wednesday, July 5, 2017
The Hardest Scripture You'll Ever Read
This morning my spiritual mentor and I were chatting. I was pontificating (like I do...and like you don't have to be a pontiff to do) on a few things and that's when she dropped Matthew 7:22 and further on me. The separation of the sheep and the goats is what it gets expanded out to elsewhere.
The context of our original conversation isn't important but suffice to say that we were talking about the parts of the Bible that Christians tend to want to ignore. Like...Sin. We have to be honest and say that American Christianity overall hates sin and not in the way God hates sin. What I mean to say is that we hate talking about it, preaching about it, admitting it exists, and especially hate admitting that it even exists within our selves. But, what is the power of the Gospel at all if we don't fully recognize that we are a fallen creature who has done this to themselves, continues to do it to themselves, and justifies it almost as much as we poo poo it in our own circles. "You disrespected your spouse? Oh, honey/dude everybody does that. It's no big deal. Heck, I did it four times on my way over here. Now, if you cheated that would be totally different." Uh...actually it's not except by our own fallen creature standards. But if I continue down this route I'll be putting the miter back on my cabeza and get all pontiff on a subject I've already established it's not crucial for the sake of this post to illuminate. #MaybeTooLate
I'm going to come right out and say what I may have already stated in previous episodes... Matthew 7:22 and following scares me. It scares me right out of a dead sleep some nights. Why? Because it's Jesus talking. It being Jesus talking mean's it's GOD talking and what GOD is saying we have zero right or ability to worm our way around. It's foundational which means it's been true since the foundation of the world, in a land before time (not a kid's movie reference, thank you) whether we want to admit it or not.
There are a lot of things that can and have been said about what the sheep and the goat separation, mostly regarding what it "doesn't" mean. Often focusing on what it "doesn't" mean leads us to not pay attention to what it "does" say (Thank You, Alistair Begg) and that is a road that leads to ruin.
So, as I believe the LORD tells me from time to time, buckle up, buttercup. This is going to get rough. You're not going to like it. I don't even like it. But most things that heal us are not likeable...potent medicine, resetting bones, the application of tourniquets, cancer surgery...none of these are holiday options. So, lets take this line by line instead of scanning through.
"Many will say to me in that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?'" vs 22
Now here's the thing that pushed this blog post. It's a little thing. It's that first word. It's one of the scariest words in the whole of the scriptures because of its context.
Many.
It brings me absolutely not comfort and it shouldn't bring you any comfort either. Jesus isn't saying that a few, some, a goodly amount, but MANY are going to say to Him on the day of judgement, "but...but...but...we did stuff!"
These are people who clearly recognize Jesus as "Lord" and have dedicated themselves in some way to Him and His service. Barney down on the beach doesn't just prophesy for Jesus in between whiling his time away praying to Buddha and meditating on the Sutras. These "many" are for the home team. These are people swinging and fielding for Jesus, progressing to the point where they are actually prophesying, actually doing miracles, driving out DEMONS in His name, with His authority and His power. They call Him the Lord of their lives. Given this resume is it a huge leap to believe that they may have written books, taught Bible studies, headed up churches? Preached in arenas?
This is heavy. The very definition of heavy. These individuals believe they are Christians, believe they are saved, believe they are on His good side. They expected to be greeted with open arms and told, "Well done, good and faithful servant" or they wouldn't be protesting, they wouldn't be pleading their case before the judge of the living and the dead, the righteous and the wicked.
The message is compacted in the way only Jesus could, "Hey...this could be you. Look out. Don't make excuses. Don't tell me what I'm not saying. This is the deal. Guard your heart. Know your motivations. Make sure what is meant to be first is first in your life, and don't screw around with matters of your soul." We see this in His response.
"I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!" v23 b
I. Never. Knew you.
That's some cold words from someone everyone sees as loving, forgiving, and all embracing. That condemns them to Hell and that doesn't even come close to the depiction of Jesus as just a "good teacher" that the World and some in the Church want to think of Him as. There's going to come a time when He is going to tell people that the miracles they performed, the demons they drove out, and the prophesies they spoke count for nothing.
Do you know Him? Seriously, there is a vast difference between knowing about someone and knowing someone. I could read about Winston Churchill, I can read his own words, but I could never say that I know him only that I know about him. I can feel like I know him, to be sure, but that's not the same as knowing him. Interestingly the Greek word for "know" here (ginosko) is the same Greek word used for the Jewish idiom for "knowing" someone...sex. The suggestion is a deep deep intimacy with Him. "I never knew you" isn't him saying they didn't show up to church or pray. It's not a casual acquaintance "know" and in my life that's the level I used to be at with Him.
My encouragement, meager as it may be, is this: Don't take this lightly. And by "this" I mean knowing Him. We can do all the great and mighty works of God and still not know Him. I venture to say that we can even feed the poor, clothe the naked, and visit the sick and it still wouldn't count if we did not deeply intimately know Him.
Knowing you and being known by you is very high on God's list of things He wants. There are many out there who say that you can't experience God and my response is now and always, "Then WHY does He tell us to?" "Taste and See", "If I answer the door I will come in to him and sup with him", and I could go on and on. Knowing about Him isn't enough, and He says it right there in Matthew. Stop being consumed by the distractions of the world though they call to you, though you are addicted to them, though they make you so blissfully happy (and you already know which ones I'm talking about) because they are distracting you from REAL LIFE. And by REAL LIFE I mean HIM, because He says "I am the way, the truth and the life". He's not just A way or A truth. We say that all the time leaving off there and betraying our hearts. He is not A life. He is THE life. He is by His very own definition REAL LIFE. And that's heavy because I didn't realize that until right now so I'm going to pause, close the Facebook window in the background and let that sink in.
.
.
.
Wow. I've still not fully absorbed that.
It's a massive alteration which takes time. Though I'm sure my beloved Pastor is thinking, "BOOM! Yes! Got one!" because he's been trying to teach that to his congregation for YEARS and I thought I had it before, but now my vision cracked just a little bit and all that light is pouring through causing a kind of spiritual pupil constriction making me shield my spirit peepers and utter a full on Neo from the Matrix, "Woah..." It'll be a while before I can utter, "I know Kung Fu..." on this one to which I'm sure my mentor will pull the Morpheus response of a skeptical appraising look followed by the line, "Show me."
The point, in so much as I can full articulate one, is to stop your distractions. Focus on what connects to Him. He says that this very act has eternal consequences. We nod our heads along when someone quotes "...and there is no life apart from Him..." then get in our SUVs, turn on the game of the week, while playing games on our phones sitting next to our loved ones who are doing the same, and we say "Where's God?" Clear the field. Seek Him and you will find Him. How do I know? No other reason than because He says so and He is not a man that He should lie.
Pax,
Will
The context of our original conversation isn't important but suffice to say that we were talking about the parts of the Bible that Christians tend to want to ignore. Like...Sin. We have to be honest and say that American Christianity overall hates sin and not in the way God hates sin. What I mean to say is that we hate talking about it, preaching about it, admitting it exists, and especially hate admitting that it even exists within our selves. But, what is the power of the Gospel at all if we don't fully recognize that we are a fallen creature who has done this to themselves, continues to do it to themselves, and justifies it almost as much as we poo poo it in our own circles. "You disrespected your spouse? Oh, honey/dude everybody does that. It's no big deal. Heck, I did it four times on my way over here. Now, if you cheated that would be totally different." Uh...actually it's not except by our own fallen creature standards. But if I continue down this route I'll be putting the miter back on my cabeza and get all pontiff on a subject I've already established it's not crucial for the sake of this post to illuminate. #MaybeTooLate
I'm going to come right out and say what I may have already stated in previous episodes... Matthew 7:22 and following scares me. It scares me right out of a dead sleep some nights. Why? Because it's Jesus talking. It being Jesus talking mean's it's GOD talking and what GOD is saying we have zero right or ability to worm our way around. It's foundational which means it's been true since the foundation of the world, in a land before time (not a kid's movie reference, thank you) whether we want to admit it or not.
There are a lot of things that can and have been said about what the sheep and the goat separation, mostly regarding what it "doesn't" mean. Often focusing on what it "doesn't" mean leads us to not pay attention to what it "does" say (Thank You, Alistair Begg) and that is a road that leads to ruin.
So, as I believe the LORD tells me from time to time, buckle up, buttercup. This is going to get rough. You're not going to like it. I don't even like it. But most things that heal us are not likeable...potent medicine, resetting bones, the application of tourniquets, cancer surgery...none of these are holiday options. So, lets take this line by line instead of scanning through.
"Many will say to me in that day, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?'" vs 22
Now here's the thing that pushed this blog post. It's a little thing. It's that first word. It's one of the scariest words in the whole of the scriptures because of its context.
Many.
It brings me absolutely not comfort and it shouldn't bring you any comfort either. Jesus isn't saying that a few, some, a goodly amount, but MANY are going to say to Him on the day of judgement, "but...but...but...we did stuff!"
These are people who clearly recognize Jesus as "Lord" and have dedicated themselves in some way to Him and His service. Barney down on the beach doesn't just prophesy for Jesus in between whiling his time away praying to Buddha and meditating on the Sutras. These "many" are for the home team. These are people swinging and fielding for Jesus, progressing to the point where they are actually prophesying, actually doing miracles, driving out DEMONS in His name, with His authority and His power. They call Him the Lord of their lives. Given this resume is it a huge leap to believe that they may have written books, taught Bible studies, headed up churches? Preached in arenas?
This is heavy. The very definition of heavy. These individuals believe they are Christians, believe they are saved, believe they are on His good side. They expected to be greeted with open arms and told, "Well done, good and faithful servant" or they wouldn't be protesting, they wouldn't be pleading their case before the judge of the living and the dead, the righteous and the wicked.
The message is compacted in the way only Jesus could, "Hey...this could be you. Look out. Don't make excuses. Don't tell me what I'm not saying. This is the deal. Guard your heart. Know your motivations. Make sure what is meant to be first is first in your life, and don't screw around with matters of your soul." We see this in His response.
"I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!" v23 b
I. Never. Knew you.
That's some cold words from someone everyone sees as loving, forgiving, and all embracing. That condemns them to Hell and that doesn't even come close to the depiction of Jesus as just a "good teacher" that the World and some in the Church want to think of Him as. There's going to come a time when He is going to tell people that the miracles they performed, the demons they drove out, and the prophesies they spoke count for nothing.
Do you know Him? Seriously, there is a vast difference between knowing about someone and knowing someone. I could read about Winston Churchill, I can read his own words, but I could never say that I know him only that I know about him. I can feel like I know him, to be sure, but that's not the same as knowing him. Interestingly the Greek word for "know" here (ginosko) is the same Greek word used for the Jewish idiom for "knowing" someone...sex. The suggestion is a deep deep intimacy with Him. "I never knew you" isn't him saying they didn't show up to church or pray. It's not a casual acquaintance "know" and in my life that's the level I used to be at with Him.
My encouragement, meager as it may be, is this: Don't take this lightly. And by "this" I mean knowing Him. We can do all the great and mighty works of God and still not know Him. I venture to say that we can even feed the poor, clothe the naked, and visit the sick and it still wouldn't count if we did not deeply intimately know Him.
Knowing you and being known by you is very high on God's list of things He wants. There are many out there who say that you can't experience God and my response is now and always, "Then WHY does He tell us to?" "Taste and See", "If I answer the door I will come in to him and sup with him", and I could go on and on. Knowing about Him isn't enough, and He says it right there in Matthew. Stop being consumed by the distractions of the world though they call to you, though you are addicted to them, though they make you so blissfully happy (and you already know which ones I'm talking about) because they are distracting you from REAL LIFE. And by REAL LIFE I mean HIM, because He says "I am the way, the truth and the life". He's not just A way or A truth. We say that all the time leaving off there and betraying our hearts. He is not A life. He is THE life. He is by His very own definition REAL LIFE. And that's heavy because I didn't realize that until right now so I'm going to pause, close the Facebook window in the background and let that sink in.
.
.
.
Wow. I've still not fully absorbed that.
It's a massive alteration which takes time. Though I'm sure my beloved Pastor is thinking, "BOOM! Yes! Got one!" because he's been trying to teach that to his congregation for YEARS and I thought I had it before, but now my vision cracked just a little bit and all that light is pouring through causing a kind of spiritual pupil constriction making me shield my spirit peepers and utter a full on Neo from the Matrix, "Woah..." It'll be a while before I can utter, "I know Kung Fu..." on this one to which I'm sure my mentor will pull the Morpheus response of a skeptical appraising look followed by the line, "Show me."
The point, in so much as I can full articulate one, is to stop your distractions. Focus on what connects to Him. He says that this very act has eternal consequences. We nod our heads along when someone quotes "...and there is no life apart from Him..." then get in our SUVs, turn on the game of the week, while playing games on our phones sitting next to our loved ones who are doing the same, and we say "Where's God?" Clear the field. Seek Him and you will find Him. How do I know? No other reason than because He says so and He is not a man that He should lie.
Pax,
Will
Thursday, June 15, 2017
Lurking in the Silences
So, I've been places, I've done things, and now I'm back. Hopefully that's good enough because I'm not a fan of making excuses and I really have gone and done so much, changed so very much, in ways that only a Living God could do in me. It will all come out in drips and drabs through the things I'll be relating now and in the future, I'm sure.
The beginning of all the changes came when the LORD brought me to a therapist a few months ago. I was stuck. I was in a depressive spiral that nothing could seem to pull me through or out of. I prayed and received my answer of 2 people, one who knows me intimately and one who didn't know me from Adam, saying "Yeah, you might want to talk to a professional about that." So, recognizing it for what it was, I submitted myself to His greater wisdom.
I've never really had a problem admitting when I need help. I've always been quick to read that marriage book, talk to the pastor or get a relationship counselor. It seems ridiculous to me to waste time not reaching out when help is available. My only concern on this one was money. Therapists, and good ones, are fairly notoriously expensive. Fortunately my insurance covered it (uh...actually Thanks, Obama...) and I was able to find an excellent Christian therapist. It took 8 or so visits for us to come to the real crux of the issue and it felt like a tree of bitterness had been pulled out by the roots... and then everything changed. It was, no joke, like the LORD leaned down and whispered in my ear, "Buckle up, buttercup," because over the next few weeks He went to work on me. I seriously had a friend who has some prophetic gifting message me and say, "Uh, I don't know why, but the Lord says to tell you to relax, let go, and whatever is going to happen is going to be good, no matter how scary it might look." They had no idea my situation at all and the timing was spot on.
I have grown in Christ more in the past two weeks than probably the past three years and, as things of the Spirit often are, it is very hard to describe. So much has changed. How I react to stressors, how I relate to my kids, my wife, the LORD Himself, and most surprising of all is how I feel about my writing has all changed.
There was a hole, as there usually is when a tree is uprooted, that I could sense in the Spirit. I knew that I needed to fill it in or another tree would take its place or even the same one as before. So, I asked around to the important people in my life who were also Christ followers what it was was that they do for their devotions. I needed to fill that hole left behind with a spiritual practice. I was already reading my Bible and praying but something else needed to be added.
My spiritual mentor told me about how she wakes early every day and listens for God. We spend so much of our Christian walk talking to/at God and hardly any time listening intently. So, I woke up at 5 am, told the LORD what I was up to and waited. What happened was almost indescribable. I guess the easiest way to say it is that I have a renewed sense of His constant presence. Most of that first session and some of those after (I have in fact been up at 5 every morning for this ever since) I'm pretty sure was the Holy Spirit rifling through my sub conscious going, "Don't need this...don't need this...this shouldn't have ever been here in the first place...I know I didn't put this here so out it goes..." And life has been so different. Peace. Joy. I was so the opposite of depressed that I put my therapy sessions on hold indefinitely. I'm react so much more readily with care and compassion. And the best part is I know that it's not because of me. When I studied Zen, Paganism, Kabbalah back in my wild youth it was all about my performance which led to pride and ego inflation and looking down at those "less spiritual" than I. This? He is doing the heavy lifting, making the changes, and causing the things within me to become more and more like His Son, Jesus Christ. I couldn't force this change if I tried.
Now, that is all setup for what I wanted to say in this entry: He is in the silences waiting for you.
We spend so much time watching movies, playing video games, filling our lives with entertainment, noise and distractions; so much so that we almost have to yell at each other just to be heard. And yes, from time to time God will "yell" at us. We get in the car turn on the radio, we have our eyes pulled away from the road and each other by notifications on our phone and we want to send the kids to this or that and then we've got to do drive thru on the way home and we are so wound up or are done with the kids that we put them in front of the TV while they eat and then we can't wait to get them to bed so we can have time with our spouse to watch that one show which we then binge too late into the night and we sleep 6 hours and then hit the snooze button too many times and then have to scramble to get the kids to school and ourselves to work, and then when we get done with work we get in the car, we turn on the radio...and then wonder "Why don't I hear anything from God in my life?? Why is He silent?!?!" (and just so we're clear...this was me, not me judging someone else)
What I have found is that the Lord is a lion lurking in the silences. He is a still small voice waiting to pounce and in modern society we give Him less and less opportunity. We have to make the opportunity. You have to carve out time with a machete if you want to hear Him, hack away at the idols in our own lives, and one of the hardest idols to slash is our self.
I didn't want to do this. I didn't want to wake up faithfully every day at 5 and if He hadn't actually led me there during a period of transition I don't know that I would have done it at all. I would be on the same vicious cycle of distracting myself and wondering if He was even listening at all when it was me who didn't care to listen.
The World will make the most of any opportunity to push back, to drop a crisis in our lap, to distract us with a phone notification, pull us into being emotionally explosive about some political thing done by people who don't even know or care that you actually exist but you care so greatly about though you have no effect, because if you have even 10 minutes of silence, 10 minutes to breathe, the Lord will pounce. I do not doubt that this is the reality one bit. (again...because this was me)
When we look at the Biblical vision of Sabbath it is with the intention of God's people having rest, quiet, peace. That is where I truly believe God really operates on people.
When do most major changes in people's lives happen? When a heart attack or something major malady puts them in the hospital and all they have is time to look, breathe, think, and reassess...or watch daytime TV which ultimately gets people to turn that off as well. He is there, lurking in the rest and in the silence, waiting for the opportunity to leap/pounce into the lives of His people.
The Bible is full of references to testing the Lord's promises, invitations to "taste and see", and that is one of the most life changing things you'll ever do...because when God basically says, "C'mon...I dare you..." (and believe me, that's what "taste and see" is...a Holy dare) He's always going to do exactly what He said He would do.
Pax,
W
The beginning of all the changes came when the LORD brought me to a therapist a few months ago. I was stuck. I was in a depressive spiral that nothing could seem to pull me through or out of. I prayed and received my answer of 2 people, one who knows me intimately and one who didn't know me from Adam, saying "Yeah, you might want to talk to a professional about that." So, recognizing it for what it was, I submitted myself to His greater wisdom.
I've never really had a problem admitting when I need help. I've always been quick to read that marriage book, talk to the pastor or get a relationship counselor. It seems ridiculous to me to waste time not reaching out when help is available. My only concern on this one was money. Therapists, and good ones, are fairly notoriously expensive. Fortunately my insurance covered it (uh...actually Thanks, Obama...) and I was able to find an excellent Christian therapist. It took 8 or so visits for us to come to the real crux of the issue and it felt like a tree of bitterness had been pulled out by the roots... and then everything changed. It was, no joke, like the LORD leaned down and whispered in my ear, "Buckle up, buttercup," because over the next few weeks He went to work on me. I seriously had a friend who has some prophetic gifting message me and say, "Uh, I don't know why, but the Lord says to tell you to relax, let go, and whatever is going to happen is going to be good, no matter how scary it might look." They had no idea my situation at all and the timing was spot on.
I have grown in Christ more in the past two weeks than probably the past three years and, as things of the Spirit often are, it is very hard to describe. So much has changed. How I react to stressors, how I relate to my kids, my wife, the LORD Himself, and most surprising of all is how I feel about my writing has all changed.
There was a hole, as there usually is when a tree is uprooted, that I could sense in the Spirit. I knew that I needed to fill it in or another tree would take its place or even the same one as before. So, I asked around to the important people in my life who were also Christ followers what it was was that they do for their devotions. I needed to fill that hole left behind with a spiritual practice. I was already reading my Bible and praying but something else needed to be added.
My spiritual mentor told me about how she wakes early every day and listens for God. We spend so much of our Christian walk talking to/at God and hardly any time listening intently. So, I woke up at 5 am, told the LORD what I was up to and waited. What happened was almost indescribable. I guess the easiest way to say it is that I have a renewed sense of His constant presence. Most of that first session and some of those after (I have in fact been up at 5 every morning for this ever since) I'm pretty sure was the Holy Spirit rifling through my sub conscious going, "Don't need this...don't need this...this shouldn't have ever been here in the first place...I know I didn't put this here so out it goes..." And life has been so different. Peace. Joy. I was so the opposite of depressed that I put my therapy sessions on hold indefinitely. I'm react so much more readily with care and compassion. And the best part is I know that it's not because of me. When I studied Zen, Paganism, Kabbalah back in my wild youth it was all about my performance which led to pride and ego inflation and looking down at those "less spiritual" than I. This? He is doing the heavy lifting, making the changes, and causing the things within me to become more and more like His Son, Jesus Christ. I couldn't force this change if I tried.
Now, that is all setup for what I wanted to say in this entry: He is in the silences waiting for you.
We spend so much time watching movies, playing video games, filling our lives with entertainment, noise and distractions; so much so that we almost have to yell at each other just to be heard. And yes, from time to time God will "yell" at us. We get in the car turn on the radio, we have our eyes pulled away from the road and each other by notifications on our phone and we want to send the kids to this or that and then we've got to do drive thru on the way home and we are so wound up or are done with the kids that we put them in front of the TV while they eat and then we can't wait to get them to bed so we can have time with our spouse to watch that one show which we then binge too late into the night and we sleep 6 hours and then hit the snooze button too many times and then have to scramble to get the kids to school and ourselves to work, and then when we get done with work we get in the car, we turn on the radio...and then wonder "Why don't I hear anything from God in my life?? Why is He silent?!?!" (and just so we're clear...this was me, not me judging someone else)
What I have found is that the Lord is a lion lurking in the silences. He is a still small voice waiting to pounce and in modern society we give Him less and less opportunity. We have to make the opportunity. You have to carve out time with a machete if you want to hear Him, hack away at the idols in our own lives, and one of the hardest idols to slash is our self.
I didn't want to do this. I didn't want to wake up faithfully every day at 5 and if He hadn't actually led me there during a period of transition I don't know that I would have done it at all. I would be on the same vicious cycle of distracting myself and wondering if He was even listening at all when it was me who didn't care to listen.
The World will make the most of any opportunity to push back, to drop a crisis in our lap, to distract us with a phone notification, pull us into being emotionally explosive about some political thing done by people who don't even know or care that you actually exist but you care so greatly about though you have no effect, because if you have even 10 minutes of silence, 10 minutes to breathe, the Lord will pounce. I do not doubt that this is the reality one bit. (again...because this was me)
When we look at the Biblical vision of Sabbath it is with the intention of God's people having rest, quiet, peace. That is where I truly believe God really operates on people.
When do most major changes in people's lives happen? When a heart attack or something major malady puts them in the hospital and all they have is time to look, breathe, think, and reassess...or watch daytime TV which ultimately gets people to turn that off as well. He is there, lurking in the rest and in the silence, waiting for the opportunity to leap/pounce into the lives of His people.
The Bible is full of references to testing the Lord's promises, invitations to "taste and see", and that is one of the most life changing things you'll ever do...because when God basically says, "C'mon...I dare you..." (and believe me, that's what "taste and see" is...a Holy dare) He's always going to do exactly what He said He would do.
Pax,
W
Tuesday, April 26, 2016
Full Belly, Lazy Heart
I have been in a funk lately, all full of discontent and disquiet. Nothing has been making me happy and most of my mental moments have been self-centered whining and complaining. I am sure I'm not the only one who encounters this, my relentless mental criticism of everyday things for a season. I was quite suddenly aware that God didn't seem to be very close or making anything better in my life.
Last night was a particularly difficult struggle. I slept for fifteen minutes and woke up fully aware and ready to go as if I'd slept eight hours. For the next three hours I was tossing and turning, praying and complaining to God, wondering why He wasn't apparently available to ease my struggles. No matter how much I kept telling myself the truth of the situations I was pissy about, no matter how many scriptures I brought to mind, no matter how much I begged and pleaded for Him to make everything better again, nothing worked. I was in chaos, weakly fending off the volley of lies from the enemy. Briefly I had the thought when things were at their worst that I should catch up on all the devotions i had been neglecting all week because of our family vacation. Grumpily, and in Eeyore's unmistakable voice, I brushed the thought aside saying, "Well...if prayer isn't going to work I don't see why reading the Bible will change anything..."
This morning I woke up in very much the same mood. Everything felt wrong. I was without joy. It didn't take much for mine Kinder to grate on what was apparently my last nerve like they had every day for the last week. There was a huge list of things to do just to keep the apartment in a status that didn't invite vermin or disease. Why was I bothering anyway? Nobody appreciates it. If I happened to disappear the kids would only notice because a snack or meal was late, and my wife would likely only notice because she didn't come home to "Guess what your (insert child) did today? We've got to do something about him/her". When was the last time I was happy? When was the last time I felt appreciated? And LORD why aren't you doing something about it?!?!
I sucked it up, manned up, bit the bullet, fed and washed the kids, loaded them up into the car, dropped the boy off at pre-school and begrudgingly agreed to take my daughter to our favorite cafe to do home school. I didn't want to. I couldn't think of a single reason why I should "reward" her with that. Apparently that's what my parenting had boiled down to lately...transaction based.
She got her Italian Cream soda, I got my Hazelnut latte, and we broke out the books. To my chagrin I noticed that we were not two days behind, but three days instead. She started her Language sections and I opened my Bible.
I am convinced that there is this moment of anticipation that occurs, perhaps experienced by the Lord or perhaps the angels, when you've had a bad time and you finally reach for that Bible. You open the cover, flip through the pages, maybe begrudgingly, maybe out of duty.
Today it was John 6, a familiar passage that I was almost petulantly skimming over. I mean, it's the Feeding of the Five Thousand. I have read it a bajillion times, seen the cartoon, had a t-shirt. I stopped and forced myself to remember that it is the word of God so maybe I should give it the respect of actually reading each sentence. I was mildly amused that there is a bit of a hidden miracle after the feeding and after Jesus walking on water. Verse 21 says "Then they willingly received Him into the boat, and immediately the boat was at the land where they were going." Yeah. Not enough to feed 5k people and walk on water, He teleports the boat.
I read through how the 5k follow him to Capernaum already wanting to make Him a king the day before. They find Him and oddly ask Him when He came there. His response rang like a gong in my soul, in my situation.
"Most assuredly, I say to you, you seek Me, not because you saw the signs, but because you ate of the loaves and were filled."
I hurt. I crumpled. I repented.
So many times I want to believe I'm better and smarter than many of the people in the Bible. I chuckle at Peter, shake my head at the Pharisees and yet each of them is a reflection of my own heart. It is no less true of me and the 5k.
I want Him to be king because of the good stuff I'm going to get. I am going to my stomach filled, my days full of lollipops and sunshine, and if I don't it is His fault. I will go my own way, rate my sins on a scale so that I don't feel too guilty about the ones I enjoy, read his New Testament commands an decide whether I feel like it or not, do my devotions based on whether it's interesting or convenient and then act surprised when my mind is full of chaos and I can't seem to hear or feel the presence of the Lord.
In Nordic culture, in the time of Beowulf, the man who became king was the man who gave treasure away. He was only beloved by his people so long as he kept giving them things. If the gravy train ever stopped the people would find a new king. I have to wonder if that is not an apt metaphor for how we in America tend to think of God. It is clearly a trap I fall into.
Do I love the King or do I love the peace He gives me? Do I love the King or do I love the joy? Do I love the King or the fact that He answers my prayers? Do I love the King because of what He has blessed me with or because of who He is?
Personally I would have to say that my reaction to adversity (Where's God? Why hasn't He fixed this?) proclaims my oh so palsied heart. With very many in my faith, I'm sure, I want to do whatever I have to in order to get the effect rather than falling in love with the cause.
As always, "I believe! Lord, help my unbelief."
Pax,
W
Last night was a particularly difficult struggle. I slept for fifteen minutes and woke up fully aware and ready to go as if I'd slept eight hours. For the next three hours I was tossing and turning, praying and complaining to God, wondering why He wasn't apparently available to ease my struggles. No matter how much I kept telling myself the truth of the situations I was pissy about, no matter how many scriptures I brought to mind, no matter how much I begged and pleaded for Him to make everything better again, nothing worked. I was in chaos, weakly fending off the volley of lies from the enemy. Briefly I had the thought when things were at their worst that I should catch up on all the devotions i had been neglecting all week because of our family vacation. Grumpily, and in Eeyore's unmistakable voice, I brushed the thought aside saying, "Well...if prayer isn't going to work I don't see why reading the Bible will change anything..."
This morning I woke up in very much the same mood. Everything felt wrong. I was without joy. It didn't take much for mine Kinder to grate on what was apparently my last nerve like they had every day for the last week. There was a huge list of things to do just to keep the apartment in a status that didn't invite vermin or disease. Why was I bothering anyway? Nobody appreciates it. If I happened to disappear the kids would only notice because a snack or meal was late, and my wife would likely only notice because she didn't come home to "Guess what your (insert child) did today? We've got to do something about him/her". When was the last time I was happy? When was the last time I felt appreciated? And LORD why aren't you doing something about it?!?!
I sucked it up, manned up, bit the bullet, fed and washed the kids, loaded them up into the car, dropped the boy off at pre-school and begrudgingly agreed to take my daughter to our favorite cafe to do home school. I didn't want to. I couldn't think of a single reason why I should "reward" her with that. Apparently that's what my parenting had boiled down to lately...transaction based.
She got her Italian Cream soda, I got my Hazelnut latte, and we broke out the books. To my chagrin I noticed that we were not two days behind, but three days instead. She started her Language sections and I opened my Bible.
I am convinced that there is this moment of anticipation that occurs, perhaps experienced by the Lord or perhaps the angels, when you've had a bad time and you finally reach for that Bible. You open the cover, flip through the pages, maybe begrudgingly, maybe out of duty.
Today it was John 6, a familiar passage that I was almost petulantly skimming over. I mean, it's the Feeding of the Five Thousand. I have read it a bajillion times, seen the cartoon, had a t-shirt. I stopped and forced myself to remember that it is the word of God so maybe I should give it the respect of actually reading each sentence. I was mildly amused that there is a bit of a hidden miracle after the feeding and after Jesus walking on water. Verse 21 says "Then they willingly received Him into the boat, and immediately the boat was at the land where they were going." Yeah. Not enough to feed 5k people and walk on water, He teleports the boat.
I read through how the 5k follow him to Capernaum already wanting to make Him a king the day before. They find Him and oddly ask Him when He came there. His response rang like a gong in my soul, in my situation.
"Most assuredly, I say to you, you seek Me, not because you saw the signs, but because you ate of the loaves and were filled."
I hurt. I crumpled. I repented.
So many times I want to believe I'm better and smarter than many of the people in the Bible. I chuckle at Peter, shake my head at the Pharisees and yet each of them is a reflection of my own heart. It is no less true of me and the 5k.
I want Him to be king because of the good stuff I'm going to get. I am going to my stomach filled, my days full of lollipops and sunshine, and if I don't it is His fault. I will go my own way, rate my sins on a scale so that I don't feel too guilty about the ones I enjoy, read his New Testament commands an decide whether I feel like it or not, do my devotions based on whether it's interesting or convenient and then act surprised when my mind is full of chaos and I can't seem to hear or feel the presence of the Lord.
In Nordic culture, in the time of Beowulf, the man who became king was the man who gave treasure away. He was only beloved by his people so long as he kept giving them things. If the gravy train ever stopped the people would find a new king. I have to wonder if that is not an apt metaphor for how we in America tend to think of God. It is clearly a trap I fall into.
Do I love the King or do I love the peace He gives me? Do I love the King or do I love the joy? Do I love the King or the fact that He answers my prayers? Do I love the King because of what He has blessed me with or because of who He is?
Personally I would have to say that my reaction to adversity (Where's God? Why hasn't He fixed this?) proclaims my oh so palsied heart. With very many in my faith, I'm sure, I want to do whatever I have to in order to get the effect rather than falling in love with the cause.
As always, "I believe! Lord, help my unbelief."
Pax,
W
Saturday, March 26, 2016
End of Lent Reflections
Why do Lent? Why fast from anything for any amount of time? What does it mean? What's the point?
In modern times fasting is fairly unique and extremely so as a form of worship. Even after completing these 40 days of Lent I find myself still somewhat confused about what fasting is and why we do it. What I do know for sure is that in this modern world where the distance between desire and satisfaction is minuscule, doing without what you want for an extended period of time is almost a revolutionary act.
I haven't had any need to justify fasting to anyone by virtue of my stay-at-home-husband status. Basically the only explanation needed was to my candy and dessert obsessed daughter. I can imagine how it would be in public however. People notice things and would certainly notice my rejecting sodas and sweets. I have often wondered how I would react if questioned. Mostly I see myself shrugging and declaring it a religious thing with some measure of resignation. I wouldn't have a real answer. Experience has taught me that in giving up what I desire, what has been an addiction, something that on some level has controlled me, brings me not closer to God so much as it gives me more of my self to turn over to his control.
One of the things I've discovered as a result of this process that happens to be entirely non spiritual is that sugar had been affecting my health. Well, duh, the health conscious among my audience are probably saying. I can practically hear the forehead slaps and semi patronizing good for you even now as this is in the first draft.
I have lived with pretty much daily acid reflux/indigestion, or whatever people call it, for years. It was only through Lent that I realized it wasn't caused by coffee or spicy food but, instead, sugar. At this realization I did a very small experimentation. Processed sugar was right out. Even in very small amounts it caused the acid. Sugar in the raw at the same amount caused the same reaction but it took much, much longer to hit. The only safe thing was honey. Zero reaction. This will bring quite the change for my life. I'm fairly certain PepsiCo stock will fall, so if you are invested...brace yourself.
It is easy to look at things as having an inescapable hold on us. I spent years thinking that giving up Facebook was too big; bigger even than when I quit smoking cold turkey. So many people have told me how they just can't do it, that somehow my success is a super human anomaly. It really isn't. It feels that way, to be sure, but it doesn't take a super human will.
I've learned a few principles that are so fundamental to human existence that I feel embarrassingly late to the party. Mainly I've learned that nothing has real power over me that I haven't willingly given that power to. I can make decades of excuses about how helpless I am, and without Jesus I'm sure it is true. I give away power with my choices. This has rung true so completely in me that I'm actually looking forward to next year when I'm likely to give up digital media of all sorts for 40 days.
I know, right? Nothing. No Netflix. No Playstation. No movies. No T.V. Shows. Just me and a lot of time spent doing analog things. Giving up Facebook earlier in the year has created so much peace within me...I'm kind of wondering how much more of that there is to be had. How much do these distractions affect us? Would I be better off that way? It is only because of this Lent that it could be possible for me to even consider attempting.
Pax,
W
In modern times fasting is fairly unique and extremely so as a form of worship. Even after completing these 40 days of Lent I find myself still somewhat confused about what fasting is and why we do it. What I do know for sure is that in this modern world where the distance between desire and satisfaction is minuscule, doing without what you want for an extended period of time is almost a revolutionary act.
I haven't had any need to justify fasting to anyone by virtue of my stay-at-home-husband status. Basically the only explanation needed was to my candy and dessert obsessed daughter. I can imagine how it would be in public however. People notice things and would certainly notice my rejecting sodas and sweets. I have often wondered how I would react if questioned. Mostly I see myself shrugging and declaring it a religious thing with some measure of resignation. I wouldn't have a real answer. Experience has taught me that in giving up what I desire, what has been an addiction, something that on some level has controlled me, brings me not closer to God so much as it gives me more of my self to turn over to his control.
One of the things I've discovered as a result of this process that happens to be entirely non spiritual is that sugar had been affecting my health. Well, duh, the health conscious among my audience are probably saying. I can practically hear the forehead slaps and semi patronizing good for you even now as this is in the first draft.
I have lived with pretty much daily acid reflux/indigestion, or whatever people call it, for years. It was only through Lent that I realized it wasn't caused by coffee or spicy food but, instead, sugar. At this realization I did a very small experimentation. Processed sugar was right out. Even in very small amounts it caused the acid. Sugar in the raw at the same amount caused the same reaction but it took much, much longer to hit. The only safe thing was honey. Zero reaction. This will bring quite the change for my life. I'm fairly certain PepsiCo stock will fall, so if you are invested...brace yourself.
It is easy to look at things as having an inescapable hold on us. I spent years thinking that giving up Facebook was too big; bigger even than when I quit smoking cold turkey. So many people have told me how they just can't do it, that somehow my success is a super human anomaly. It really isn't. It feels that way, to be sure, but it doesn't take a super human will.
I've learned a few principles that are so fundamental to human existence that I feel embarrassingly late to the party. Mainly I've learned that nothing has real power over me that I haven't willingly given that power to. I can make decades of excuses about how helpless I am, and without Jesus I'm sure it is true. I give away power with my choices. This has rung true so completely in me that I'm actually looking forward to next year when I'm likely to give up digital media of all sorts for 40 days.
I know, right? Nothing. No Netflix. No Playstation. No movies. No T.V. Shows. Just me and a lot of time spent doing analog things. Giving up Facebook earlier in the year has created so much peace within me...I'm kind of wondering how much more of that there is to be had. How much do these distractions affect us? Would I be better off that way? It is only because of this Lent that it could be possible for me to even consider attempting.
Pax,
W
Friday, March 25, 2016
On Lent: Ungrateful on Good Friday
One of the amazing things about the Bible is that if you read it long enough, eventually you will see yourself. It's not like the "Iliad" or the "Odyssey" where you will see great heroes you want to be like, a goal to aspire to. No. In the Bible you'll see yourself warts and all.
Maybe you recognize yourself in Peter's bull in a china closet sort of brash loyalty and good intentions. Perhaps it is in Thomas' doubt. For some, and I feel echoes of this in my soul as well, it is in the father's desperate cry for his child to be healed where he declares, "I believe!" and then follows it up with equally desperate honest with, "Help my unbelief". I wish that I saw myself in Lazarus' sister Mary who happily sits at the master's feet.
Unfortunately I most clearly find myself in the parable of the ungrateful servant. I reference it regularly in both real life and blog posts. Man owes the king say $500,000. He begs and pleads for forgiveness. King wipes the debt clean. Man sees a fellow servant who owes him $10 and he drags him to court to get him thrown into prison. King takes the first man, condemns him for not being grateful and showing the same kind of forgiveness the king showed him to someone who owed way less, weeping, gnashing of teeth, etc ensues. As a result, in my personal Lent reflections I've been focused on gratitude.
I'm not one of those people who was saved from a life of prostitution, drugs, etc. I am an average joe who grew up in the church, fell away for a bit but nothing major, and came back. I'm kind of a super minor prodigal son. So many people are impressed by those testimonies of being saved from massive darkness, they praise God and rejoice that someone was once saved from so much. I remember many times, hearing those testimonies and actually feeling somehow inadequate. Of course, that comes from a basic misunderstanding of the situation. If you asked those individuals with the Super Testimonies (tm) they'd be the first to tell you that they wish they had my testimony rather than walk through a personal hell.
I've mentioned it before, but the most massive revelation of the past year in my spiritual walk has been from Dr. Charles Stanley, who once said that God didn't send Jesus to save us from what we've done, the sins we've committed. God sent Jesus to save us from what we are.
We'd like to believe that we need Jesus because we at one or many points in time committed this sin, that sin, and violated the laws of God. Those sins are just the symptom, and a good physician never just treats the symptom. At our core, because of Adam and Eve's transgression in the Garden, we were fundamentally altered. That act made it so that we weren't just capable of sin, but we would inevitably sin. It is in our heart, our nature, our spiritual DNA. It doesn't excuse us, of course, but that is why we need God, need Jesus, need His Holy Spirit, because we are incapable. To say that the sins we commit are the problem is like saying that someone riddled with cancer's problem is the dramatic weight loss, hair falling out, blood in the stool, and lack of appetite. No. It's the faulty cells inside the body that are replicating the DNA incorrectly. If it was just our actions then we wouldn't need to be conformed to the image/mind of Jesus. We'd just need to be conformed to His actions, and the Pharisees, as much crap as we tend to talk about them, were already doing that. Their externals were white, the internals full of rotting flesh and dead men's bones.
That is where I find myself struggling most of the time. It isn't my externals that need altering, although there are things that are beneficial to do and not do. The issue is now and forever my internals...and that, without Jesus, is impossible to alter. I say I struggle, but really it has lately been more surrender. "I believe; Help my unbelief" resounds through my soul at the same frequent desperation as Brother Lawrence's "If You do not change me, how can I do otherwise?".
It is a hard fact that you can do nothing about it. It is a hard fact that you can do nothing about it.
I was watching my kids the other day. My daughter has been having a rough time of it lately. She's at some sort of snotty "tween" stage that just grates on my nerves. It's too early for her to be acting like I'm as much of an idiot as she thinks I am. If any other adult tells her something it is like some enlightened revelation, but if I tell her she scoffs and does it her own way. She isn't showing much respect for me or her mother and I refuse to let her treat us like that.
The thing that keeps grinding my gears is how ungrateful she is. I mean, honestly, never mind that we gave her life, but there is the food, lodging, clothing, tv, computer, education, vacations, etc. We give her so much and she snots me off? Treats me like I'm an idiot when I show her how to do something? Tell her how best to go about her life? I mean, I'm only 38 and she's 9. How much more life experience do I have? Psht...
And that's when I heard some sort of deep, bass level, spiritual bell ding in my soul. Jesus is so faithful at ringing that thing. My perspective shifted. I heard Him clear His throat and I saw my own inconsistency, my own lack of gratitude, my own insistence that God is an idiot (though I never phrase it that way when I'm about to do the thing), my own snottiness.
I felt guilty. I felt condemnation. I felt gutted by my own behavior.
Normally I would have wallowed in all of that, slipped into a spiritual depression (it's comfy there...), and been all "Woe is me", for a few days. I stepped a toe in there and then felt something different than my usual penitent slump. It was so weird. I felt loved. It was like He came up behind me, turned my face away from my actions and just hugged me, loved on me for a while. I didn't have to feel horrible. And the reason why is hard to explain, but I'll try through the medium of my parent child relationship.
My daughter we always be ungrateful on some level, because she can't know all that we have done for her. She can't know how Papa has struggled to teach her, how much Papa has prayed, and cried, and changed himself to be better for her. She can't know how much time and Papa has spent just doing the laundry, dishes, bathroom scrubbing, floor scrubbing, cooking, etc all for her. There is no way for her to comprehend how much her Mama works and struggles to provide good things for her. Even when she has her own children and does the same for them she will only have an inkling of an idea because we'll be 20 years ahead.
We are ungrateful and always be ungrateful on some level because of the magnitude of what Jesus has done for us, for what the Father has done for us, and what the Holy Spirit has done for us. He has spent many thousands of years from the foundation of the Earth and untold years before the foundation of the Earth doing for us. When I think of that I get the same feeling I imagine I would have scuba diving and a blue whale swam up next to me. Fear. Not a fear for my life, but that natural fear and respect for something so massive we barely register on it's scale. It is just so huge. We can't comprehend it now and I doubt we'll be able to comprehend it on the other side, not fully.
He deserves so much more gratitude, so much more praise, so much more of my life because of what He has done. And every time I meditate on that I feel something like Him replying with a smile, "I know. Hey, let's go for a walk."
From the Garden, to Enoch, to us...His desire hasn't much changed, has it?
Pax,
W
Maybe you recognize yourself in Peter's bull in a china closet sort of brash loyalty and good intentions. Perhaps it is in Thomas' doubt. For some, and I feel echoes of this in my soul as well, it is in the father's desperate cry for his child to be healed where he declares, "I believe!" and then follows it up with equally desperate honest with, "Help my unbelief". I wish that I saw myself in Lazarus' sister Mary who happily sits at the master's feet.
Unfortunately I most clearly find myself in the parable of the ungrateful servant. I reference it regularly in both real life and blog posts. Man owes the king say $500,000. He begs and pleads for forgiveness. King wipes the debt clean. Man sees a fellow servant who owes him $10 and he drags him to court to get him thrown into prison. King takes the first man, condemns him for not being grateful and showing the same kind of forgiveness the king showed him to someone who owed way less, weeping, gnashing of teeth, etc ensues. As a result, in my personal Lent reflections I've been focused on gratitude.
I'm not one of those people who was saved from a life of prostitution, drugs, etc. I am an average joe who grew up in the church, fell away for a bit but nothing major, and came back. I'm kind of a super minor prodigal son. So many people are impressed by those testimonies of being saved from massive darkness, they praise God and rejoice that someone was once saved from so much. I remember many times, hearing those testimonies and actually feeling somehow inadequate. Of course, that comes from a basic misunderstanding of the situation. If you asked those individuals with the Super Testimonies (tm) they'd be the first to tell you that they wish they had my testimony rather than walk through a personal hell.
I've mentioned it before, but the most massive revelation of the past year in my spiritual walk has been from Dr. Charles Stanley, who once said that God didn't send Jesus to save us from what we've done, the sins we've committed. God sent Jesus to save us from what we are.
We'd like to believe that we need Jesus because we at one or many points in time committed this sin, that sin, and violated the laws of God. Those sins are just the symptom, and a good physician never just treats the symptom. At our core, because of Adam and Eve's transgression in the Garden, we were fundamentally altered. That act made it so that we weren't just capable of sin, but we would inevitably sin. It is in our heart, our nature, our spiritual DNA. It doesn't excuse us, of course, but that is why we need God, need Jesus, need His Holy Spirit, because we are incapable. To say that the sins we commit are the problem is like saying that someone riddled with cancer's problem is the dramatic weight loss, hair falling out, blood in the stool, and lack of appetite. No. It's the faulty cells inside the body that are replicating the DNA incorrectly. If it was just our actions then we wouldn't need to be conformed to the image/mind of Jesus. We'd just need to be conformed to His actions, and the Pharisees, as much crap as we tend to talk about them, were already doing that. Their externals were white, the internals full of rotting flesh and dead men's bones.
That is where I find myself struggling most of the time. It isn't my externals that need altering, although there are things that are beneficial to do and not do. The issue is now and forever my internals...and that, without Jesus, is impossible to alter. I say I struggle, but really it has lately been more surrender. "I believe; Help my unbelief" resounds through my soul at the same frequent desperation as Brother Lawrence's "If You do not change me, how can I do otherwise?".
It is a hard fact that you can do nothing about it. It is a hard fact that you can do nothing about it.
I was watching my kids the other day. My daughter has been having a rough time of it lately. She's at some sort of snotty "tween" stage that just grates on my nerves. It's too early for her to be acting like I'm as much of an idiot as she thinks I am. If any other adult tells her something it is like some enlightened revelation, but if I tell her she scoffs and does it her own way. She isn't showing much respect for me or her mother and I refuse to let her treat us like that.
The thing that keeps grinding my gears is how ungrateful she is. I mean, honestly, never mind that we gave her life, but there is the food, lodging, clothing, tv, computer, education, vacations, etc. We give her so much and she snots me off? Treats me like I'm an idiot when I show her how to do something? Tell her how best to go about her life? I mean, I'm only 38 and she's 9. How much more life experience do I have? Psht...
And that's when I heard some sort of deep, bass level, spiritual bell ding in my soul. Jesus is so faithful at ringing that thing. My perspective shifted. I heard Him clear His throat and I saw my own inconsistency, my own lack of gratitude, my own insistence that God is an idiot (though I never phrase it that way when I'm about to do the thing), my own snottiness.
I felt guilty. I felt condemnation. I felt gutted by my own behavior.
Normally I would have wallowed in all of that, slipped into a spiritual depression (it's comfy there...), and been all "Woe is me", for a few days. I stepped a toe in there and then felt something different than my usual penitent slump. It was so weird. I felt loved. It was like He came up behind me, turned my face away from my actions and just hugged me, loved on me for a while. I didn't have to feel horrible. And the reason why is hard to explain, but I'll try through the medium of my parent child relationship.
My daughter we always be ungrateful on some level, because she can't know all that we have done for her. She can't know how Papa has struggled to teach her, how much Papa has prayed, and cried, and changed himself to be better for her. She can't know how much time and Papa has spent just doing the laundry, dishes, bathroom scrubbing, floor scrubbing, cooking, etc all for her. There is no way for her to comprehend how much her Mama works and struggles to provide good things for her. Even when she has her own children and does the same for them she will only have an inkling of an idea because we'll be 20 years ahead.
We are ungrateful and always be ungrateful on some level because of the magnitude of what Jesus has done for us, for what the Father has done for us, and what the Holy Spirit has done for us. He has spent many thousands of years from the foundation of the Earth and untold years before the foundation of the Earth doing for us. When I think of that I get the same feeling I imagine I would have scuba diving and a blue whale swam up next to me. Fear. Not a fear for my life, but that natural fear and respect for something so massive we barely register on it's scale. It is just so huge. We can't comprehend it now and I doubt we'll be able to comprehend it on the other side, not fully.
He deserves so much more gratitude, so much more praise, so much more of my life because of what He has done. And every time I meditate on that I feel something like Him replying with a smile, "I know. Hey, let's go for a walk."
From the Garden, to Enoch, to us...His desire hasn't much changed, has it?
Pax,
W
Sunday, March 20, 2016
On Lent: Palm Sunday
It has been an interesting past few days here, going though Lent. In many ways I feel like this is the week I've been waiting for, and not because Resurrection Sunday comes and I'll be able to have sugar. On the contrary, in these final few days the personal spiritual revelations have started coming that I expected. There is a certain maturity that comes in giving up something you hold dear, something that controls you or at least moves you. One or two weeks without that thing is a fad or a lark. The third week tests your resolve. The fourth week tests your reasons, and if you get beyond that there really is quite something to be learned about yourself.
I'm starting to see the Sunday School haze fall away from my eyes more rapidly. Like many I grew up attending Sunday School in the morning and then Children's Church after worship service. Now, I respect the people who do such things and make those programs available. I don't mean to criticize them, but things get lost in the translation. Whether it was my wholly owned ignorance that is being exposed to the light of day or their desire to make good "behavioral lessons" out of common Bible tales I'm not certain.
For instance, it just occurred to me today that Luke, the doctor and gospel writer, wasn't one of the 12 Disciples. For that matter fellow gospel writer Mark wasn't either. Luke was likely Greek, never met the Lord in person and began as a pupil of Paul. Odds are he was a gentile. Mark, it is believed, was one of the outer disciples and tradition holds that he was one who departed when Jesus declared that in order to follow Him one had to drink of his blood and eat of his flesh. Superficial, some of the most learned among my readership might suppose, but it alters how one sees the things in front of him. The words and impact of their gospels are still the same, there's just a little something different in the perception.
This last week I was reading in Luke where Jesus tells about the wise man who built his house upon the rock an the foolish man who built his house upon the sand (Luke 6:48). And the rains came down, and the floods came up, (you may be singing along now...) and the foolish man's house went SPLAT! When we were little we knew that song was about Christians and Non-Christians. Oh, look at those foolish non-Christians building there lives on hedonism, humanism, evolution. It's only on the rock of Jesus and his principals, doing things his way, that we can expect to live stable, secure lives.
I grew up, went to college, started a family and for a long time it was very rare that I ever felt stable and secure. Heck, I didn't even know anyone who said they felt stable and secure. So, the old wise man foolish man parable must be wrong, right? I'm a Christian, this shouldn't be how I feel, right? I said the prayer, I did the getting dunked in water thing. So how can I feel this way?
There are whole sections in Christian book stores about how to feel good about yourself, how you're a winner and an overcomer, how you should just change your perception and you'll have self esteem just because you did the prayer and the water dunky thingy. I've always had a natural aversion to those sort of books because they feel...sickeningly sweet, like drinking soda syrup straight. (What? Oh, like I'm the only one who has ever...OK...maybe I am...snorted pixie sticks? Anyone?) I can't take the perma-grins of the authors on the cover, their wide mouthed, way too reassuring smiles highlighted with unnaturally white teeth. (If you hear laughter as you read that part it's probably my sister. She knows exactly who I'm talking about there). The whole thing of "think positive, that's all you need" has always seemed counter-intuitive to the gospel...and now I know why...well...OK...I have a better understanding.
The wise man and foolish man of Luke's 6th chapter has nothing to do with non-believers, but rather everything to do with believers. Look at verse 46 : "Why do you call Me, 'Lord, Lord," and do not do what I say?..." and then He launches in to the parable. It is those who call Him, "Lord, Lord,", those who proclaim Him as their teacher or, more appropriately, Master (according to the Greek) and yet don't do what He says to do. That would be like me learning under chef's in culinary school, telling everyone how proud I am to be learning under them, attending daily classes, then decide I know better than them how to make a souffle, and just start guessing at what goes in it. What's going to happen? It might be barely edible but it's not a souffle. Why call him Lord, Lord if you aren't going to do things as he says to do them? Why waste the time if you aren't going to follow him and make up your own life recipe?
Now, I can't and won't judge you, but I'm more than happy to judge myself.
Until about a year ago I was doing the same thing. Well, that's not completely accurate. It is probably best to say that I have spent the past six years going through a process that has gradually brought me more in line with Jesus as my true Master that became very obvious within the past year or so.
In the past year I've gone on a self induced/guided journey through the New Testament chapter by chapter wondering what the "commandments" of the New Testament are. I know the word "commandments" freaks us people of God's Grace out a bit, but they are actually there. "Do this. Don't do this," can be found in every book of the New Testament and yet we ignore them. Let's just take this classic, "Let there be no divisions among you," from twice in 1 Corinthians. In our modern times many people find identity in their divisions with other denominations. "But, come on, that's Paul. That's his opinion." Jesus' words are even harder, "Be anxious for nothing,". That's it. Don't do it. What is the antidote? Prayer. Making your requests known to God.
So, long story short, I started to do the things Jesus and the Apostles said to do. Then, and only then, was when I started to feel peace and stability. When I reject divisions among the Body of Christ then it follows that chaos within my life at church will be minimized. When I squash pride and foolish talk (yes, the last one is an eternal work in progress) then my relationships are protected and enhanced. When I refuse to be anxious about something and instead give it to the Lord and leave it there, naturally I will have peace. When I choose to study His word and be in regular contact through prayer then, surprise, I feel not only stability but His presence.
This morning I got all dressed up to attend my church's Palm Sunday service. It was a little bittersweet in a few ways. I wore one of my Hawaiian style button up shirts to the service because that's about as dressy as I get. The church doesn't quite feel like home yet. I was reminded of this because I know if I was at my home church more than one, at the VERY least the pastor, would have commented on how appropriate my shirt was because..ya know...Palm Sunday, palm trees on the shirt.
For the entire season of Lent the question that the Reverend has been asking as our theme is: "What does it mean to be a faithful follower of Jesus Christ?" I find that I'm not alone in my preference of over-intellectualizing that question. When it comes down to it, it is not calling Him "Lord, Lord". It is all to do with doing the things He tells us to do...even if it means loving your enemies...which...I'm glad I get along with a lot of people because that one's rough.
Pax,
W
I'm starting to see the Sunday School haze fall away from my eyes more rapidly. Like many I grew up attending Sunday School in the morning and then Children's Church after worship service. Now, I respect the people who do such things and make those programs available. I don't mean to criticize them, but things get lost in the translation. Whether it was my wholly owned ignorance that is being exposed to the light of day or their desire to make good "behavioral lessons" out of common Bible tales I'm not certain.
For instance, it just occurred to me today that Luke, the doctor and gospel writer, wasn't one of the 12 Disciples. For that matter fellow gospel writer Mark wasn't either. Luke was likely Greek, never met the Lord in person and began as a pupil of Paul. Odds are he was a gentile. Mark, it is believed, was one of the outer disciples and tradition holds that he was one who departed when Jesus declared that in order to follow Him one had to drink of his blood and eat of his flesh. Superficial, some of the most learned among my readership might suppose, but it alters how one sees the things in front of him. The words and impact of their gospels are still the same, there's just a little something different in the perception.
This last week I was reading in Luke where Jesus tells about the wise man who built his house upon the rock an the foolish man who built his house upon the sand (Luke 6:48). And the rains came down, and the floods came up, (you may be singing along now...) and the foolish man's house went SPLAT! When we were little we knew that song was about Christians and Non-Christians. Oh, look at those foolish non-Christians building there lives on hedonism, humanism, evolution. It's only on the rock of Jesus and his principals, doing things his way, that we can expect to live stable, secure lives.
I grew up, went to college, started a family and for a long time it was very rare that I ever felt stable and secure. Heck, I didn't even know anyone who said they felt stable and secure. So, the old wise man foolish man parable must be wrong, right? I'm a Christian, this shouldn't be how I feel, right? I said the prayer, I did the getting dunked in water thing. So how can I feel this way?
There are whole sections in Christian book stores about how to feel good about yourself, how you're a winner and an overcomer, how you should just change your perception and you'll have self esteem just because you did the prayer and the water dunky thingy. I've always had a natural aversion to those sort of books because they feel...sickeningly sweet, like drinking soda syrup straight. (What? Oh, like I'm the only one who has ever...OK...maybe I am...snorted pixie sticks? Anyone?) I can't take the perma-grins of the authors on the cover, their wide mouthed, way too reassuring smiles highlighted with unnaturally white teeth. (If you hear laughter as you read that part it's probably my sister. She knows exactly who I'm talking about there). The whole thing of "think positive, that's all you need" has always seemed counter-intuitive to the gospel...and now I know why...well...OK...I have a better understanding.
The wise man and foolish man of Luke's 6th chapter has nothing to do with non-believers, but rather everything to do with believers. Look at verse 46 : "Why do you call Me, 'Lord, Lord," and do not do what I say?..." and then He launches in to the parable. It is those who call Him, "Lord, Lord,", those who proclaim Him as their teacher or, more appropriately, Master (according to the Greek) and yet don't do what He says to do. That would be like me learning under chef's in culinary school, telling everyone how proud I am to be learning under them, attending daily classes, then decide I know better than them how to make a souffle, and just start guessing at what goes in it. What's going to happen? It might be barely edible but it's not a souffle. Why call him Lord, Lord if you aren't going to do things as he says to do them? Why waste the time if you aren't going to follow him and make up your own life recipe?
Now, I can't and won't judge you, but I'm more than happy to judge myself.
Until about a year ago I was doing the same thing. Well, that's not completely accurate. It is probably best to say that I have spent the past six years going through a process that has gradually brought me more in line with Jesus as my true Master that became very obvious within the past year or so.
In the past year I've gone on a self induced/guided journey through the New Testament chapter by chapter wondering what the "commandments" of the New Testament are. I know the word "commandments" freaks us people of God's Grace out a bit, but they are actually there. "Do this. Don't do this," can be found in every book of the New Testament and yet we ignore them. Let's just take this classic, "Let there be no divisions among you," from twice in 1 Corinthians. In our modern times many people find identity in their divisions with other denominations. "But, come on, that's Paul. That's his opinion." Jesus' words are even harder, "Be anxious for nothing,". That's it. Don't do it. What is the antidote? Prayer. Making your requests known to God.
So, long story short, I started to do the things Jesus and the Apostles said to do. Then, and only then, was when I started to feel peace and stability. When I reject divisions among the Body of Christ then it follows that chaos within my life at church will be minimized. When I squash pride and foolish talk (yes, the last one is an eternal work in progress) then my relationships are protected and enhanced. When I refuse to be anxious about something and instead give it to the Lord and leave it there, naturally I will have peace. When I choose to study His word and be in regular contact through prayer then, surprise, I feel not only stability but His presence.
This morning I got all dressed up to attend my church's Palm Sunday service. It was a little bittersweet in a few ways. I wore one of my Hawaiian style button up shirts to the service because that's about as dressy as I get. The church doesn't quite feel like home yet. I was reminded of this because I know if I was at my home church more than one, at the VERY least the pastor, would have commented on how appropriate my shirt was because..ya know...Palm Sunday, palm trees on the shirt.
For the entire season of Lent the question that the Reverend has been asking as our theme is: "What does it mean to be a faithful follower of Jesus Christ?" I find that I'm not alone in my preference of over-intellectualizing that question. When it comes down to it, it is not calling Him "Lord, Lord". It is all to do with doing the things He tells us to do...even if it means loving your enemies...which...I'm glad I get along with a lot of people because that one's rough.
Pax,
W
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
On Lent: The Greatest Commandments
If Lent is a season in which we are called to consider "What is it mean to be a faithful disciple of Jesus" then we must consider, at some point, the Greatest Commandment.
1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.
According to Jesus, in multiple Gospels though I'm in Mark 12 for this one, the second is like it.
2. Love your neighbor as yourself.
Anyone with a Sunday School grade level can recite that from rote memory, but when it comes to understanding it...at least in my case, not so much.
How in the world is loving my neighbor in the same manner as I love myself anywhere CLOSE to loving God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength? It's something that I take on Faith (with a capital F, please note, which indicates the concept is too large for me to get a grapple on at the moment) because I don't understand it. Feel free to comment down below and help me wrestle with it.
Taking it on Faith I tackle the more manageable second one. And I've been crap at it. I used to suffer from a fairly significant Social Anxiety. I wouldn't dare call it "severe" merely because I have no basis for comparison. It wasn't Anxiety in the way I think most people feel anxiety, which is a physical response with no corresponding logic to it. Again, I haven't studied anxiety, so if I'm incorrect feel free to correct me in the comments below. I've always had fairly logical reasons for my anxiety, or so I've believed.
When I meet a person I always have a certain amount of awkwardness because I recognize that I'm nothing to whoever I meet. I'm a face without a name until I'm introduced, and who the heck am I to assume anything let alone that I have a right to their time let alone their consideration? Sometimes I feel the same way about my blogs, but I figure you can just close them if you don't want them and be on your merry way. I tend to feel that I don't even have a right to introduce myself to someone, and when others have introduced me I have felt like that was some sort of an imposition. But, usually once a conversation begins even then I'm at a loss. I'm not a very small talk type person. I've never been able to pull off the "Oh...so, uh...are you originally from here?" type conversation. It's awkward, I sound awkward, and it feels like I'm really not interested, struggling for something so the other person who started talking to me doesn't feel rejected. And it sounds like that because I really feel that way. If I could skip the awkward "getting to know you" bit and launch into the in depth struggling with our human and spiritual selves philosophical sort of conversation I would. That's the territory I feel the most at home in. But this, "Oh gee...that Nor'easter we got the other day...what did ya think of that?" is painful. Then you search around trying to find something in common and people always go to Sports. I know why they go to sports...but I am not a sports guy. Even in my favorite sport of Soccer I don't much like talking about it. And that's why I wear Fandom shirts.
Fandom shirts (currently wearing my Doctor Who shirt with the glow-in-the-dark Weeping Angels) let me bypass all of that...generally. One of the Small Group studies I went to I spent 8 agonizing weeks going wearing a different shirt and got no bites. It was a couples thing with the guys but me were all swollen armed "Guys Guys", talking manliness, outdoors, trucks, and the like. I wore Doctor Who shirts, Sherlock shirts, video game shirts, and in a last ditch (and perennially futile effort) I wore an Edgar Allen Poe shirt with a quote from "The Murders of the Rue Morgue" and one of the ladies there said the quote sounded romantic.
I'm just not a "reacher-out-er". I figure that if we are meant to be friends then it's going to happen, and even THEN I have anxiety. My past is a long history of thinking that each friendship is actually more important to the other person than it actually ends up being. And that hurts. I was friends for two years with someone and our wives were good friends. It's such a trite story where the friend holds a party...I didn't get an invite...then one of the other friends casually remarks that "Yeah, it was a great party. All his friends were there." and I realize that I've been just an acquaintance all this time and I thought I was a friend. It has happened in more instances than I can actually count on my hands, fingers and toes. And it hurts. It hurts a lot. It doesn't just cut, it shreds. That shredding makes a person more than a little gun shy when it comes to forging friendships and putting yourself out there. I've been fortunate to have one person in my life who is such a good friend that when we meet up it's like we never parted (even when it was ten years apart) or I would give up on the whole "having friends thing".
All that to say that I have anxiety because I've been damaged, not some chemical imbalance...which would be far worse I agree.
And, all that to get back to what I realized about our second greatest commandment.
"Oh well...get out there anyway."
Satori is a Zen concept that indicates a sudden realization that feels like getting smacked upside the head with a brick spiritually. I had that.
Loving your neighbor is about loving whoever happens to be next to you at the time. Loving him/her as yourself means treating them precisely how you would want to be treated. For me, that means getting over my anxiety so that I can welcome them into my life as warmly and completely as I would actually want to be on the receiving end of. I need to be treating whoever I meet with precisely the same love and care as my one completely steadfast friend did when they met me. Yes, I've been hurt. Yes, I have anxiety to deal with. However, I'm in danger of turning into exactly what hurt me. If I hold my hurt I'll make it awkward for others, I'll love at a distance, I'll not invite someone, etc. The only way to not become what hurt me to someone else is to let go, rely on Jesus to do what He has commanded, and love with His love. It's scary, but I'm pretty sure He can accomplish it in me when He has already commanded it of me.
It may seem a little thing now that I've pushed it outside of myself for you to see, but I'm a bit bigger on the inside for the realization.
Pax,
W
1. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.
According to Jesus, in multiple Gospels though I'm in Mark 12 for this one, the second is like it.
2. Love your neighbor as yourself.
Anyone with a Sunday School grade level can recite that from rote memory, but when it comes to understanding it...at least in my case, not so much.
How in the world is loving my neighbor in the same manner as I love myself anywhere CLOSE to loving God with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength? It's something that I take on Faith (with a capital F, please note, which indicates the concept is too large for me to get a grapple on at the moment) because I don't understand it. Feel free to comment down below and help me wrestle with it.
Taking it on Faith I tackle the more manageable second one. And I've been crap at it. I used to suffer from a fairly significant Social Anxiety. I wouldn't dare call it "severe" merely because I have no basis for comparison. It wasn't Anxiety in the way I think most people feel anxiety, which is a physical response with no corresponding logic to it. Again, I haven't studied anxiety, so if I'm incorrect feel free to correct me in the comments below. I've always had fairly logical reasons for my anxiety, or so I've believed.
When I meet a person I always have a certain amount of awkwardness because I recognize that I'm nothing to whoever I meet. I'm a face without a name until I'm introduced, and who the heck am I to assume anything let alone that I have a right to their time let alone their consideration? Sometimes I feel the same way about my blogs, but I figure you can just close them if you don't want them and be on your merry way. I tend to feel that I don't even have a right to introduce myself to someone, and when others have introduced me I have felt like that was some sort of an imposition. But, usually once a conversation begins even then I'm at a loss. I'm not a very small talk type person. I've never been able to pull off the "Oh...so, uh...are you originally from here?" type conversation. It's awkward, I sound awkward, and it feels like I'm really not interested, struggling for something so the other person who started talking to me doesn't feel rejected. And it sounds like that because I really feel that way. If I could skip the awkward "getting to know you" bit and launch into the in depth struggling with our human and spiritual selves philosophical sort of conversation I would. That's the territory I feel the most at home in. But this, "Oh gee...that Nor'easter we got the other day...what did ya think of that?" is painful. Then you search around trying to find something in common and people always go to Sports. I know why they go to sports...but I am not a sports guy. Even in my favorite sport of Soccer I don't much like talking about it. And that's why I wear Fandom shirts.
Fandom shirts (currently wearing my Doctor Who shirt with the glow-in-the-dark Weeping Angels) let me bypass all of that...generally. One of the Small Group studies I went to I spent 8 agonizing weeks going wearing a different shirt and got no bites. It was a couples thing with the guys but me were all swollen armed "Guys Guys", talking manliness, outdoors, trucks, and the like. I wore Doctor Who shirts, Sherlock shirts, video game shirts, and in a last ditch (and perennially futile effort) I wore an Edgar Allen Poe shirt with a quote from "The Murders of the Rue Morgue" and one of the ladies there said the quote sounded romantic.
I'm just not a "reacher-out-er". I figure that if we are meant to be friends then it's going to happen, and even THEN I have anxiety. My past is a long history of thinking that each friendship is actually more important to the other person than it actually ends up being. And that hurts. I was friends for two years with someone and our wives were good friends. It's such a trite story where the friend holds a party...I didn't get an invite...then one of the other friends casually remarks that "Yeah, it was a great party. All his friends were there." and I realize that I've been just an acquaintance all this time and I thought I was a friend. It has happened in more instances than I can actually count on my hands, fingers and toes. And it hurts. It hurts a lot. It doesn't just cut, it shreds. That shredding makes a person more than a little gun shy when it comes to forging friendships and putting yourself out there. I've been fortunate to have one person in my life who is such a good friend that when we meet up it's like we never parted (even when it was ten years apart) or I would give up on the whole "having friends thing".
All that to say that I have anxiety because I've been damaged, not some chemical imbalance...which would be far worse I agree.
And, all that to get back to what I realized about our second greatest commandment.
"Oh well...get out there anyway."
Satori is a Zen concept that indicates a sudden realization that feels like getting smacked upside the head with a brick spiritually. I had that.
Loving your neighbor is about loving whoever happens to be next to you at the time. Loving him/her as yourself means treating them precisely how you would want to be treated. For me, that means getting over my anxiety so that I can welcome them into my life as warmly and completely as I would actually want to be on the receiving end of. I need to be treating whoever I meet with precisely the same love and care as my one completely steadfast friend did when they met me. Yes, I've been hurt. Yes, I have anxiety to deal with. However, I'm in danger of turning into exactly what hurt me. If I hold my hurt I'll make it awkward for others, I'll love at a distance, I'll not invite someone, etc. The only way to not become what hurt me to someone else is to let go, rely on Jesus to do what He has commanded, and love with His love. It's scary, but I'm pretty sure He can accomplish it in me when He has already commanded it of me.
It may seem a little thing now that I've pushed it outside of myself for you to see, but I'm a bit bigger on the inside for the realization.
Pax,
W
Sunday, February 14, 2016
On Lent : Plucking out an eye...
I remember the first time I heard someone explain the very colorful passage where Jesus declares that if your eye offends/causes you to sin then gouge it out (Matt 5:29 and then again in Matt 18:9. My father had a friend from work over to dinner and he knew we were Christians. The man was "Christ Curious" and asked my dad what the passage meant. Was Jesus serious? If so, my dad's friend related, he'd be a blind, mute, paraplegic before the week was through. I laughed heartily, but it stuck with me. It is such a vivid image. My father went on to explain it was, naturally, Jesus being hyperbolic to establish how seriously God takes sin and, by extension, how seriously we should treat sin.
This Saturday (Hurrah for Saturday Evening church) our Pastor's homily/sermon (Is it "homily" in Presbyterian circles? I know it can be for Catholics...bah...) was on the basics of what Lent is all about. He said, "Lent forces us to ask the question, 'What does it mean to be a disciple of Jesus Christ?'". The text was from Mark 8 where Jesus declares his own impending death. Peter takes Jesus aside and rebukes him for saying he's going to die. (Seriously...Peter rebuking Jesus...whew...) Jesus turns around and rebukes Peter by calling him Satan. Seriously. He calls him Satan. And then he makes a statement that, because of the multi-millenia distance, sounds innocuous to us.
"Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me."
Let that sink in. Let that REALLY sink in. Forget that we wear crosses as jewelry. Forget every time you've seen them in the sanctuary of your local church. Forget that you know the end of each gospel. What is a cross? What was a cross to them?
It was a horribly unclean implement of torture used upon criminals originated in its use by an oppressive gentile regime.
Pick up my cross? Really Jesus? What the heck are you talking about? I'm not condemned to die. I'm not an unclean law breaker. Did you eat some bad Matzo or something? You're talking crazy, dude. Maybe you should take a nap and we'll clarify that later. Let's get you out of the sun there, Mister Messiah, OK?
If they could see us from then to now and saw the representation of the cross in our churches, around our necks, tattooed on our arms, on our Bibles, as decals on our vehicles, I'm fairly certain they would throw up in their mouths a little. It was that repulsive to them. We're talking on the order of when Jesus declared that if they wanted to be saved then they needed to eat his flesh and drink his blood. It cost him a lot of disciples.
This was, of course, Jesus speaking outside of time already knowing what was to come. But what is the cross we are called to carry?
It is not the things we give up for Lent. As difficult as that is, and the sugar cravings are pretty darn bad over here, it is not our "cross". Difficulties, disease, pain, problematic relationships, etc...I don't think that these are "the cross we have to bear". Sure, they are less than pleasant to go through, but I think there is a bigger meaning here.
I like how The Voice puts it, "If any of you wants to follow Me, you will have to give yourself up to God's plan..."
HIS plan no matter what it is, the cost, or what might happen as a result. Can you trust God's plan to death? I find it to be pretty easy to say, "Yes. In a renounce Jesus or die situation I would choose death." It is harder when you add torture to the mix. If you add public humiliation and shaming to it then I'm even less likely to be OK with the divine plan. How about working for no visible result and still putting in the time day after day? I often ask people, "What if God's "great and mighty" plan for you is to be a janitor? Or a stay at home parent? What if it's to work your 9-5 with no recognition? Would you deny yourself and give your all for His will?" I'm always surprised how many people discount that possibility. They brush it aside with some personal assurance that whatever God has for them is FAR more glorious than something so petty or humble...forgetting, of course, that the least will be greatest and the last first in Jesus' upside down rule that declares us all to be servants and subservient to one another.
A cross, at least in my eyes, matches Jesus' path. "I really would rather not have to suffer living through to this plan you have set before me...but, nevertheless, Your will be done."
The things we give up for Lent, I'm realizing, has more to do with the eye-gouging. What I give up offends me, is bad for me, is going to ultimately kill me or my relationship to God. I'm startlingly aware of why Jesus refers to these things in our life that offend as "body parts". We love them like they are. We take our sins or other negative behaviors and we clutch them to our chest, both disgusted by them yet very unwilling to give them up. I'm shocked at how much giving up something as simple and relatively innocent as sugar is quite like losing a limb. It becomes something of a metaphor for my "innocent" sins. Jesus is calling saying, "Cut it off. It's bad for you. Trust me. Pluck it out. You don't need it. It can only weigh you down. Make the clean break." Usually I find myself begging, "I only just want to keep it a little longer. Just a LITTLE bit longer. The littlest bit. Come on. Please?" It's a self serving lie, of course. He does know best.
I say to myself more than anyone else, "Let go. Give it up. Trust Him. The Father knows best."
Pax,
W
This Saturday (Hurrah for Saturday Evening church) our Pastor's homily/sermon (Is it "homily" in Presbyterian circles? I know it can be for Catholics...bah...) was on the basics of what Lent is all about. He said, "Lent forces us to ask the question, 'What does it mean to be a disciple of Jesus Christ?'". The text was from Mark 8 where Jesus declares his own impending death. Peter takes Jesus aside and rebukes him for saying he's going to die. (Seriously...Peter rebuking Jesus...whew...) Jesus turns around and rebukes Peter by calling him Satan. Seriously. He calls him Satan. And then he makes a statement that, because of the multi-millenia distance, sounds innocuous to us.
"Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me."
Let that sink in. Let that REALLY sink in. Forget that we wear crosses as jewelry. Forget every time you've seen them in the sanctuary of your local church. Forget that you know the end of each gospel. What is a cross? What was a cross to them?
It was a horribly unclean implement of torture used upon criminals originated in its use by an oppressive gentile regime.
Pick up my cross? Really Jesus? What the heck are you talking about? I'm not condemned to die. I'm not an unclean law breaker. Did you eat some bad Matzo or something? You're talking crazy, dude. Maybe you should take a nap and we'll clarify that later. Let's get you out of the sun there, Mister Messiah, OK?
If they could see us from then to now and saw the representation of the cross in our churches, around our necks, tattooed on our arms, on our Bibles, as decals on our vehicles, I'm fairly certain they would throw up in their mouths a little. It was that repulsive to them. We're talking on the order of when Jesus declared that if they wanted to be saved then they needed to eat his flesh and drink his blood. It cost him a lot of disciples.
This was, of course, Jesus speaking outside of time already knowing what was to come. But what is the cross we are called to carry?
It is not the things we give up for Lent. As difficult as that is, and the sugar cravings are pretty darn bad over here, it is not our "cross". Difficulties, disease, pain, problematic relationships, etc...I don't think that these are "the cross we have to bear". Sure, they are less than pleasant to go through, but I think there is a bigger meaning here.
I like how The Voice puts it, "If any of you wants to follow Me, you will have to give yourself up to God's plan..."
HIS plan no matter what it is, the cost, or what might happen as a result. Can you trust God's plan to death? I find it to be pretty easy to say, "Yes. In a renounce Jesus or die situation I would choose death." It is harder when you add torture to the mix. If you add public humiliation and shaming to it then I'm even less likely to be OK with the divine plan. How about working for no visible result and still putting in the time day after day? I often ask people, "What if God's "great and mighty" plan for you is to be a janitor? Or a stay at home parent? What if it's to work your 9-5 with no recognition? Would you deny yourself and give your all for His will?" I'm always surprised how many people discount that possibility. They brush it aside with some personal assurance that whatever God has for them is FAR more glorious than something so petty or humble...forgetting, of course, that the least will be greatest and the last first in Jesus' upside down rule that declares us all to be servants and subservient to one another.
A cross, at least in my eyes, matches Jesus' path. "I really would rather not have to suffer living through to this plan you have set before me...but, nevertheless, Your will be done."
The things we give up for Lent, I'm realizing, has more to do with the eye-gouging. What I give up offends me, is bad for me, is going to ultimately kill me or my relationship to God. I'm startlingly aware of why Jesus refers to these things in our life that offend as "body parts". We love them like they are. We take our sins or other negative behaviors and we clutch them to our chest, both disgusted by them yet very unwilling to give them up. I'm shocked at how much giving up something as simple and relatively innocent as sugar is quite like losing a limb. It becomes something of a metaphor for my "innocent" sins. Jesus is calling saying, "Cut it off. It's bad for you. Trust me. Pluck it out. You don't need it. It can only weigh you down. Make the clean break." Usually I find myself begging, "I only just want to keep it a little longer. Just a LITTLE bit longer. The littlest bit. Come on. Please?" It's a self serving lie, of course. He does know best.
I say to myself more than anyone else, "Let go. Give it up. Trust Him. The Father knows best."
Pax,
W
Monday, February 8, 2016
Prayer
Prayer and I have had a bit of a rocky relationship for quite a while. It's a frustrating nebulous thing no one really talks about how you should go about it. It's just something you DO. You talk to the "man up in the sky" for a few minutes, tell him what you want and then move on with your life until you need to do it again. Pastors use the "prayer time" seemingly to wrap up their sermon by providing a closed eye summary of bullet points. The time when prayer has always felt the least odd or awkward for most people is when in dire need. That's easy. You've reached the end of yourself, everything is spinning out of control, and you have no power over outcomes, of course you toss up a prayer.
My position on prayer in the past has been one of, "Well, He knows what I need and he's either going to give it to me or he isn't" or "How in the world is multiple prayers and long hours on my knees going to help? Honestly. He knows my heart, is it really going to sway Him if I bow, scrap, grovel, and wail until my knees bleed and my vocal cords shred?"
When we look into the prayer lives of those in the Bible you see characters more open than others and with some, if you were to take it at face value, they don't seem to have prayed at all. A fault of not recording every detail. I was always oddly comforted that the disciples fell asleep while Jesus asks them to pray with him. I know I'd be spouting all kinds of excuses. "Look, rabbi, come on. We just had a meal, had some wine, and it's getting late. Never mind that we walked all day to get you that donkey and foal you wanted. I close my eyes for two seconds and I'm gonna pass out." They surely didn't need a devil to force them to sleep. My personal schedule is enough to make it so that I can't close my eyes for long without sawing logs wherever I happen to be. My sister-in-law can attest to this. Ten minutes at her house and I'm on her couch in an unconscious state.
I've admired those of other faiths and their various "prayer" activities. Buddhist meditation, the Muslim dedication to praying five times a day no matter the circumstances, and Kabbalist (Jewish Mystic) prayer/meditation.
It's not secret that I favor the Kabbalists in many respects. Sure, they got a little wacky with their Books of Splendor and were really bad at picking who the Messiah is but there was a discipline born out joy that was their prayer life. For them it was about communion with the LORD, that sure heaven was something to look forward to but a glimpse could be experienced here and now. It was coming into his presence and singing praises right along with the angels surrounding the throne. There was a direct experiential component there. It was rarely about asking for things or giving a litany of ailments and discontent about our lives. No Kabbalist would ever presume to tell the LORD how things should be, or how he needed to provide this way, or give him this kind of car now. Although the Lord's Prayer was a Christian document the Kabbalist heart was more often than not, "Not my will be done, but YOUR will be done".
During my early years in FEC (Fundamentalist Evangelical Christianity) I can't remember a single pastor, deacon, or elder who was in love with the LORD. I grant you that perhaps they kept it 'til their personal devotional time, or maybe they were on their way to being in love with the Lord. There were men who TRIED to love the LORD and went to pains to make it seem that way. There were men who wrestled with the LORD sometimes in the very pulpit as they preached. There were men who put on every appearance of being "in good with God". There were men who clearly felt obligated to preach and pastor because of what the LORD had done. And these men formed my notions of why to pray. Namely, "God says do it, so you do it." Prayer was a box to check off the list right up there with "made sure I turned off the oven". It was a regulation. I've had people tell me all my life that this whole "experiencing God" things is just a scam. You do what the book says, you come on Sunday, you put money in the plate, and if you get a little thrill during "How Great Thou Art" when the people harmonize a little then that's fine, but it's NOT the Holy Spirit. Somehow, it's MEANT to be bland all the time.
Once I entered into my thirties and wasn't so angry with those who had taught me, I started taking notice that the teachers in my life were suddenly people who had been broken. They'd had divorces they didn't plan on, children having children out of wedlock, scandals, or even things they'd never mention but you could see the brokenness somewhere about the eyes. They were often quiet and gentle. When they spoke with authority it was rare but bedrock solid. And when it came to prayer it was like a soothing breeze to a weary soul. If you brought up Jesus then there it was, a new look in their eyes. Like they couldn't wait to talk about Him and hoped you just stand back and say "Ok...3...2...1...GO!" and they'd tell you everything the good Lord had done for them, ever, up until 5 seconds before you asked. It was always their prayers that stuck out to me. You can tell when a prayer is from the heart or manufactured, tested, focused grouped, etc. That sincere prayer is born out of brokenness and a love for Him to whom we pray.
All of that to say...(a common phrase here at the Oubliette) I've reclaimed some of the baby from the bathwater I talked about last time.
I did some research online as to different prayer times and I now am praying (as regularly as capable) three times a day. Of course there's a bajillion opinions on what to pray when and inevitably they all disagree with each other. I pray at 9:30am, 12:30pm, and at 7pm every day. Traditionally it's meant to be 9am, 12pm, and 3pm (as I understand it) but life gets in the way. They were monks who set this up and not stay at home husbands who have a child to homeschool, a house to clean, and (biggest differentiation) a wife to look after.
Over the past three to four weeks that I have been praying three times a day I've noticed that my life has taken on some fairly serious changes. When I do pray all three times I've noticed that I am calmer, and react more in line with the "fruit of the Spirit" than when I do not. Sin is not constantly crouching at my door like it once was. I am thinking about the LORD more throughout my day making decisions and choices based on His word in the Bible. Remarkably I have more of a sensation of His presence throughout the day. That presence is something I've wanted for a very long time. I once asked someone why it was that I only feel His presence at church. If God is everywhere shouldn't I feel His presence everywhere? They shrugged and said something along the lines of how if we felt Him everywhere then we wouldn't need faith. I still disagree with that. It's like saying we worship a God who wants to be known but doesn't want us to know Him; or a God who reaches out but doesn't want us to take hold; a God who gives us communion but wants it to be only about the bread and wine.
It's easy to look at rituals or ritualized anything and say that the power is in the act. As Christians we know that isn't true. The reason that I will live my Christian walk partly through "ritualized" prayer is because it creates a rhythm in my life that has me regularly orbiting my the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. It has more to do with the promise that if I draw near to Him then He will draw near to me.
I confront myself regularly with the question from my youth, "Why pray to a God who already knows my needs before I as?" Every time I respond that, "I don't know why...but the God who fashioned the universe (literally one song) out of His words, who sent His Son to die for me, this God who greatly loves these specks of dust on a blue dot in space....ASKS me to." He shoves the fact of omnipotence, omniscience, and all the other OMNI that is integral to His being aside and wants to hear about my day, my struggles, how He can help, my joys and praises to Him, etc.
When I pick up my son in my arms at day's end and ask him how his day went, even when he's been home all day, he doesn't hesitate. He doesn't say, "You know, Papa. You were there with me all day." No. He screws up his face, puts a thoughtful finger to his chin and says, "Wehw..." (That's "well" for those who don't speak his language) and begins to tell me everything.
I thank God that every day my children reminds me of what He means when He says that we must all come to him like little children.
Pax,
Will
My position on prayer in the past has been one of, "Well, He knows what I need and he's either going to give it to me or he isn't" or "How in the world is multiple prayers and long hours on my knees going to help? Honestly. He knows my heart, is it really going to sway Him if I bow, scrap, grovel, and wail until my knees bleed and my vocal cords shred?"
When we look into the prayer lives of those in the Bible you see characters more open than others and with some, if you were to take it at face value, they don't seem to have prayed at all. A fault of not recording every detail. I was always oddly comforted that the disciples fell asleep while Jesus asks them to pray with him. I know I'd be spouting all kinds of excuses. "Look, rabbi, come on. We just had a meal, had some wine, and it's getting late. Never mind that we walked all day to get you that donkey and foal you wanted. I close my eyes for two seconds and I'm gonna pass out." They surely didn't need a devil to force them to sleep. My personal schedule is enough to make it so that I can't close my eyes for long without sawing logs wherever I happen to be. My sister-in-law can attest to this. Ten minutes at her house and I'm on her couch in an unconscious state.
I've admired those of other faiths and their various "prayer" activities. Buddhist meditation, the Muslim dedication to praying five times a day no matter the circumstances, and Kabbalist (Jewish Mystic) prayer/meditation.
It's not secret that I favor the Kabbalists in many respects. Sure, they got a little wacky with their Books of Splendor and were really bad at picking who the Messiah is but there was a discipline born out joy that was their prayer life. For them it was about communion with the LORD, that sure heaven was something to look forward to but a glimpse could be experienced here and now. It was coming into his presence and singing praises right along with the angels surrounding the throne. There was a direct experiential component there. It was rarely about asking for things or giving a litany of ailments and discontent about our lives. No Kabbalist would ever presume to tell the LORD how things should be, or how he needed to provide this way, or give him this kind of car now. Although the Lord's Prayer was a Christian document the Kabbalist heart was more often than not, "Not my will be done, but YOUR will be done".
During my early years in FEC (Fundamentalist Evangelical Christianity) I can't remember a single pastor, deacon, or elder who was in love with the LORD. I grant you that perhaps they kept it 'til their personal devotional time, or maybe they were on their way to being in love with the Lord. There were men who TRIED to love the LORD and went to pains to make it seem that way. There were men who wrestled with the LORD sometimes in the very pulpit as they preached. There were men who put on every appearance of being "in good with God". There were men who clearly felt obligated to preach and pastor because of what the LORD had done. And these men formed my notions of why to pray. Namely, "God says do it, so you do it." Prayer was a box to check off the list right up there with "made sure I turned off the oven". It was a regulation. I've had people tell me all my life that this whole "experiencing God" things is just a scam. You do what the book says, you come on Sunday, you put money in the plate, and if you get a little thrill during "How Great Thou Art" when the people harmonize a little then that's fine, but it's NOT the Holy Spirit. Somehow, it's MEANT to be bland all the time.
Once I entered into my thirties and wasn't so angry with those who had taught me, I started taking notice that the teachers in my life were suddenly people who had been broken. They'd had divorces they didn't plan on, children having children out of wedlock, scandals, or even things they'd never mention but you could see the brokenness somewhere about the eyes. They were often quiet and gentle. When they spoke with authority it was rare but bedrock solid. And when it came to prayer it was like a soothing breeze to a weary soul. If you brought up Jesus then there it was, a new look in their eyes. Like they couldn't wait to talk about Him and hoped you just stand back and say "Ok...3...2...1...GO!" and they'd tell you everything the good Lord had done for them, ever, up until 5 seconds before you asked. It was always their prayers that stuck out to me. You can tell when a prayer is from the heart or manufactured, tested, focused grouped, etc. That sincere prayer is born out of brokenness and a love for Him to whom we pray.
All of that to say...(a common phrase here at the Oubliette) I've reclaimed some of the baby from the bathwater I talked about last time.
I did some research online as to different prayer times and I now am praying (as regularly as capable) three times a day. Of course there's a bajillion opinions on what to pray when and inevitably they all disagree with each other. I pray at 9:30am, 12:30pm, and at 7pm every day. Traditionally it's meant to be 9am, 12pm, and 3pm (as I understand it) but life gets in the way. They were monks who set this up and not stay at home husbands who have a child to homeschool, a house to clean, and (biggest differentiation) a wife to look after.
Over the past three to four weeks that I have been praying three times a day I've noticed that my life has taken on some fairly serious changes. When I do pray all three times I've noticed that I am calmer, and react more in line with the "fruit of the Spirit" than when I do not. Sin is not constantly crouching at my door like it once was. I am thinking about the LORD more throughout my day making decisions and choices based on His word in the Bible. Remarkably I have more of a sensation of His presence throughout the day. That presence is something I've wanted for a very long time. I once asked someone why it was that I only feel His presence at church. If God is everywhere shouldn't I feel His presence everywhere? They shrugged and said something along the lines of how if we felt Him everywhere then we wouldn't need faith. I still disagree with that. It's like saying we worship a God who wants to be known but doesn't want us to know Him; or a God who reaches out but doesn't want us to take hold; a God who gives us communion but wants it to be only about the bread and wine.
It's easy to look at rituals or ritualized anything and say that the power is in the act. As Christians we know that isn't true. The reason that I will live my Christian walk partly through "ritualized" prayer is because it creates a rhythm in my life that has me regularly orbiting my the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. It has more to do with the promise that if I draw near to Him then He will draw near to me.
I confront myself regularly with the question from my youth, "Why pray to a God who already knows my needs before I as?" Every time I respond that, "I don't know why...but the God who fashioned the universe (literally one song) out of His words, who sent His Son to die for me, this God who greatly loves these specks of dust on a blue dot in space....ASKS me to." He shoves the fact of omnipotence, omniscience, and all the other OMNI that is integral to His being aside and wants to hear about my day, my struggles, how He can help, my joys and praises to Him, etc.
When I pick up my son in my arms at day's end and ask him how his day went, even when he's been home all day, he doesn't hesitate. He doesn't say, "You know, Papa. You were there with me all day." No. He screws up his face, puts a thoughtful finger to his chin and says, "Wehw..." (That's "well" for those who don't speak his language) and begins to tell me everything.
I thank God that every day my children reminds me of what He means when He says that we must all come to him like little children.
Pax,
Will
Monday, January 11, 2016
Throwing the Catholic Baby Out With the Bathwater....
Over the past week, since I kissed Facebook goodbye, I have been doing quite a bit of thinking regarding my Christian walk. (It's probably appropriate to end that sentence with something self deprecating, yet fully accurate, like "or lack thereof") I came to the realization that I REALLY don't know how to "do this".
One of the greater dangers of Protestantism is the freedom it engenders. (For those who don't know me insert the "no...I'm not saying I want to go back to Catholicism..." disclaimer here.) I've mentioned in other posts that during my own childhood it was quite confusing to come to the front of the church with my soul stirred by an altar call only to say the prayer, be patted on the head, given a "gift Bible" and sent to sit with the other believers like a good boy. I'm sure I was not the only one to ever receive the treatment and wonder, "Uh...this is it?". It's quite a bit like hitting twenty-one and you realize that the next big age based event on the calendar is an "Over The Hill" party.
Pentecostals have another thing to look forward to after conversion in the "Baptism of the Holy Spirit". After that you find out your gifting, put it into use, given opportunities to practice it and it's all so exciting. The problem there is that eventually people start manufacturing excitement, manufacturing "crisis" that must be spoken in tongues over etc. At least that was my experience in a few places. Most people become addicted to drama. I, on the other hand, get terribly fatigued by drama. (The last time I encountered Church-drama someone sent me a letter in order to "Tell on the Pastor" I threw it in the trash without opening it because I was just tired of the back biting, slandering, and petty behavior. We never cause so much damage or fight so hard as when there is so little at stake.)
Over the years I've gotten up the courage (or frustration...usually frustration) to ask something along the lines of "What the heck do I do now?!". I'm seeking some way to "do" this things call Christian life and I've often been frustrated with the answer. It's a freedom loving answer. It's always a very non-committal answer of, "Well...ya know...read the Bible. Prayer. Prayer is good. Love your neighbor. And..well...that sort of thing."
I understand that no body in Protestant circles wants to tell another EXACTLY what to do. There is a whiff of legalism that tends to follow there, but sometimes I wonder how much not having outlines of options creates something of a "option paralysis" in more than just me. "Well, try reading in the morning. You know...if you want. Like, maybe in the morning. Or in the afternoon. Or...ya know...whenever. Try and fit prayer in there somewhere. If it's important to you, you'll figure it out." I always hated that last phrase which is more kiss off than I'm comfortable with. Because I can't figure it out then it isn't important to me. Why did I ask you about it? OH, to help me figure it out. Yeah.
Maybe it is just me, as things often tend to be, but too much freedom on a specific thing tends to make me feel like it can just be left up to chance. I want to make Jesus the focus of my life, the very rhythm of the song of my existence, I want it to take up my identity and the best those who came before me (who are alive to talk to) can come up with is, "Well...ya know...do...or...do not...God loves you either way!"
And this is why Catholicism (for all its faults) sounds so good. There is pattern, there is rhythm, there is ritual. You wake up, you do this. You go about your day, you go to mass daily, you say your rosary, you pray at these times. It has shape, structure, and solidity to it. Does it slip into "If you don't do it this way you are going to hell." ? Yeah. Absolutely there is that danger. But what you do proclaims to the world and reflects back to yourself who you are and to whom you belong.
I remember as a teenager having a conversation with one of my parents (ok...argument is probably more accurate) and I threw something in their face about how they don't pray or read the Bible. I was being a snot and more concerned with winning the argument than what was actually true, so I went for the kidney shot which with my parents was their faith. They'd live but I wanted to make it hurt for a long while after. They whipped around on me and rightly told me that I have no idea whatsoever they do with their time. I didn't see what they do in the privacy of their bedroom, or when I wasn't around. I'm almost completely certain that their intention was to keep to the New Testament idea about keeping those things private, and possibly so I could make my own decisions when it came to faith in Jesus, that my coming to him would be genuine and honest.
In retrospect I see the rightness of what they said, but I wonder what I missed out on. Catholics, Jews, Muslims, and Mormons for crying out loud each have systems for their faith. All the Mormons I knew went and attended classes at their church buildings every morning before school to learn about their faith and how to defend it. I still maintain that they probably know more about the Old and New Testament than I do because of their head start. In Catholic and Jewish (orthodox) families they teach their children "This is how you do it. This is how you read this. This is what this means. This is how we act and here is why." Protestantism, as I've seen and understand it, has had as a byproduct a sense of "Ain't nobody going to tell me how to do this" and so we tend to err on the side of, "Come to Jesus and be nice".
"So, why don't you just figure out a way to do it that works for you and just do it, man?"
I will. Believe me I will get to doing that. In a sense I feel that I'm also looking for community. So many people are obsessed with the dual video screens and Hillsong style worship that lasts twice as long as any sermon you might get and then go out to eat, go home and watch the Broncos once a week as the way to do this Christianity thing, and I'm not there anymore if ever I really was. Maybe it's because I'm staring 40 in the eye and I distrust things that play with my emotions. Anyway, the point is that there is a sense of belonging in doing things the same way with others who follow Jesus and the "grab bag" sort of walk hasn't been working. It's causing a bit of discontent that I think comes from a divine place.
So, what works for you? How do you inject Jesus into your life daily? What's your "pattern" of "ritual"?
Pax,
W
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